pregnant after miscarriage and scared

[broken heart]

hey i have just found out im pregnant agen, and im so scared im going to have another miscarriage not to mention i havent told the babys dad because when i lost our baby he reacted really badly and were not together anymore, i feel so alone and scared, i wish so much i had his support. i dont no what to do?

[windrunner]

*HUGS*

[broken heart]

Ta, *hugs* bk x

[[Awakening]]

*hugs* If you live in england you need to go to you're GP sweetie. They can refer u to counselling services, midwifery etc. Did u receive counselling after your miscarriage? If you decide to go through with the pregnancy, you should be able to talk to your midwife about your emotions and concerns.

I'm always here if you need to talk

pregnancy can be a scary time despite what you're going through *holds you and sits with you*

x x x x x

[broken heart]

thank u, iv decided im keeping the baby i couldent have a termination after what happend, iv been to the doctors and seen the midwife now i just have to wait for my scan date, but its all gone so fast i only found out 3 days ago and it just seems like everything has gone so quick and i havent even got used to the idea that im pregnant agen, i guess all my hormoness are going a little crazy too whitch is proberbly not helping, but i feel so alone right now and wish i could talk to my ex but i no i cant tell him not yet not untill i get to 12 weeks, i just dont no what to do. *hugs* xx

*hugs* It's understandable you're scared after having a miscarriage. But keep going to the doctors and they'll help make sure everything goes as well as possible. I agree, counseling would be a good idea too.

[caragh]

remember a lot of women miscarriage there first child and i was one of them but then go on to have there next pregnancy go full term . if you cant talk to the father wait till you reach the magic 3 month milstone and send him a letter and remember im one of the older of this group by the looks of things i've teenage children so you can pm me if you need support

[PLUM*]

its okay to be scared i wish i could help you more but ive never had a miscarriage so i wouldnt really understand what your going through but i could imagine what your goin thru dont be afraid to ask for counseling

[PLUM*]

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Originally Posted by SnowDrop

its okay to be scared i wish i could help you more but ive never had a miscarriage so i wouldnt really understand what your going through but i could imagine what your goin thru dont be afraid to ask for counseling

[Almost Gold]

As someone else already mentioned, just because you've had one miscarriage, it doesn't really make you more likely to have another. Many women have miscarriages (especially with their first pregnancy) and end up having perfect pregnancies after that.
It was really wrong of the father to get upset about the previous miscarriage. I doubt you did anything to cause it, so he had no right to be mad at you. If you do want him to be involved and want his support, you just need to tell him. You could wait until the 3 month mark when the chance of miscarriage is significantly lower. I personally think you should tell him before that and let him know that you are doing your best to take care of yourself and the baby. If anything happens, it isn't your fault. You need his support and he should give it.

[broken heart]

thank you all for your comments it helps knowing there are people out there i can turn to for some support it help at least a little to ease my mind, iv got a scan next friday so fingers crossed,
xxx