Triggering (SI) - they blow me off...how can i

[terracerose]

i have an appointment with a counsler on monday...and during our last meeting i told her that i had cut a few days prier...it sounded and felt like she blew it off...she said something along the lines of "well, next time you feel like doing that...do something else"

ive cut again many times since i last saw her...and im wanting to tell her...but how can i when she acted like that...what should i do?

[Country Girl]

i would tell her if i were you....if she acts like that again maybe see if you can talk to her about it, maybe she didn't mean it like it sounded...hopefully....I've had a friend tell me that, but at the time he really didn't understand. See what happens. *hugs* and good luck

[Chloe.]

If she does that again, then keep bringing it up.
Make her listen.
I know that's hard to do, though.
I hope everything goes well. (:
x

[xthexasylumxchildx]

you should tell her. i doubt she meant it in the way you were thinking.
she's a counselor anyway. it's her job to listen. so make her.

[iliketea416]

Keep talking, you're doing really well. I'm sorry that you feel that she was blowing you off. Maybe try and explain what you do to distract yourself and where you fail so she can have a better understanding?

Do keep talking though, you deserve this help.

[l'il esky]

BLIMEY if only it were that friggin easy! i would try and explain to her at your next visit a bit more bout the sh.

went i saw a counsellor through work i had said something along the lines of im really pleased that i havent sh'd in 8days and he said oh is that all? the first thing (apart from leaving) was go and cut! but i went back the next wk to explain to him that what he said wasnt acceptable, if he were going to counsel people who sh then he needs to think about how he says things and how they are going to impact. and how that it had been an amazing achievement and he made me feel like the loser that i am. but by the end he got what i said and apologised so hopefully he wont do the same to someone else. needless to say i didnt go back. but talking about it helped him to understand the complexities of sh.

*huggles* i hope your ok xxxxxx

[ThinkingofRecovery]

Maybe she is trying not to make it a big deal and blowing it out of proportion. I often feel reassured when a big song and dance isn't made. Did she suggest anything that you could do instead?

[terracerose]

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Originally Posted by no reason

Maybe she is trying not to make it a big deal and blowing it out of proportion. I often feel reassured when a big song and dance isn't made. Did she suggest anything that you could do instead?

she just said to make a list of things to do other than SI...so that id know what to do i guess

[ThinkingofRecovery]

Maybe you could both work on the list together to arrive at something that might be helpful?

[Envi90]

Wow...I'd have been so pissed if someone said that to me....But as everyone else mention, try explaining that it's not THAT easy. If it were, none of us would be SI-ing.