Triggering (SI) - I think i've figured it out!

[Elphaba]

Welll I might have anyway

I have a fear of being out of control or so I think anyway, so today I was riding a horse called Millie who can be a bit of idiot but I was doing work without sturrips and she bolted with me and I completly freaked out about it which I haven't done for a few years now, when I lost all my confidence I like riding the slower horses which im in control of but when the faster ones bolt I get scared and tense up which only makes them worse..

So anyway along with the riding which also includes a fear of riding in open spaces, roads are fine its just fields, I know why that is though
I need to be in control of what happens around me an if I look at the current situation I don't have a lot of control of anything right now, which is were the SI comes in part of the reason I do it is becuase im in control of what is going on...so yes advice on how to keep calm in situations you can't control?

[one_step_closer]

It can be helpful to look for the little things that you can control, there usually always are some. When you feel out of control it's good to talk about how you are feeling, some support and understanding might help you to feel less anxious. What sort of things do you feel like you can't control right now? Take care, i'm here if you want to talk.

[Elphaba]

hmmm things I can't control; The stuff thats going on with my family, according to my mum the revision im doing, whats going on around me. I'm not sure its hard to explain