So what do you think about paying your own parents money when you get a job or what not?
Currently me being 17 and only on £20 sometimes £10 a week i'm not paying any money but i keep getting thrown into my face that when I'm in a full time job I'll be paying my parents money.
But what you think to this? I'm in two minds about it.
Yes- if i'm working maybe i should put in a bit of money towards it and what not.
No- why should i pay money when they have supported me up until now? and them treating me like i'm just a lodger and stuff.
I think once you get a full time job it is perfectly acceptable for them to ask something of you. Most of the time it is nowhere near what you would be paying in private rental accommodation.
I pay rent and I'm still at college, granted I'm 19 and have a part time job but still its out of courtesy to your parents to pay them rent especially as your earning your own money and not having to pay anything to the house at all. That's kind of exploiting your parents >_<
£20.50 driving lessons
£10-£20 here and there for outings
£8 keyboard lessons
£4 a week goes in my bank from them
i'm trying to calm down the £10-£20 here and there but if i really want to go out and promised my mates i would and can't afford it i will get them to give it me.
But theres no way on earth i can afford to pay my own driving lessons, keyboard lessons and pay rent on top of that i'll be forever bankrupt for ME time.
I am though paying the excess on new straighteners after i've used my dads Voucher card which is £21 and i'll be paying £13.
As soon as I can start working again (I had to stop because of anxiety stuff) then I will be paying my grandma rent I would happily give her money now but it would be from ema and she refuses to take it because that money gets me all my stuff my for college so art supplies etc, clothes, transport etc but to make up for it whenever I can I try to get the shopping for her and if she pays me back I put the money back in her purse when she isn't looking.
But the minute I can work again which is going to be delayed now (grr) I will be paying her rent and anything else I can get away with
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I think that's perfectly fine.
They have to pay for alot for you, & when I'm in a full time job I will be paying my mum rent, even if she likes it or not.
At the end of the day, you don't have to be there and they could kick you out, aswell as stop paying for everything you have.
Once I've sorted myself out and got a job I'll be giving them something regularly, yes. I hate relying on them for money especially now they're struggling, which is why I work for my dad for either less than minimum wage or nothing at all.
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But theres no way on earth i can afford to pay my own driving lessons, keyboard lessons and pay rent on top of that i'll be forever bankrupt for ME time.
Once your working if there's stuff you can't afford to do then I'm afraid you have to learn to budget. Pay for the most important things first. I NEVER have money for ME time but that's the way life is. Be thankful that whilst your living at home if you're paying rent you can compramise with your parents if you can't afford it one week.
Once you move out you pay rent, council tax, gas, water, electric, tv licence, etc. And if you can't afford it one month then tough. The company don't really care.
I'd say make the most of living at home, if you parents want £20 a week or whatever then pay them. It's only fair to pay towards what your using.
Also just to clarify that's not all aimed at you Lolly_x. Was just quoting that one bit you said as an example.
Anyway in short...yes. Once you're working I think it's only fair to pay your parents some money.
Paying rent to your parents is not only fair but, actually, expected!
Once you work full time, the statutory child benefits your parent/guardian recieved will cease and I believe council tax rates become higher depending on the number of adults in the household...this means your parents will be recieving less but paying out more to keep you, so it is really only fair that you start to cover your own expenses in the home a little.
Your parents are actually teaching you a valuable life lesson. Paying bills and budgeting (on a smaller scale to real life obviously)
All adults in a household should contribute to the up keep of the home, from the bills to the weekly shop to general maintainance. In a room rent situation you would be expected to pay your way, why should it be any different in your parents home. They may be your parents but as a full time working adult you should be acting as one. Life is not a free ride, and the sooner someone can learn that, the better.
Once you're legally an adult and your parents are no longer expected to be (financially) responsible for you, then paying them rent seems only fair. As Lou said, once over 18 (or 19 if in full time education), parents no longer receive Child Tax Credits or Child Benefit which would have previously contributed to your upkeep.
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my mum got a letter from the tax place going. 'your daughter can leave school this year. if she is getting a job tell us so we can stop paying you'.
but im not.
so har.
I never had to pay my dad rent, but I did buy some of the groceries and put gas in his car when I drove it and things like that. It's not easy supporting kids, so I think it's perfectly fair to give back to your parents when you can!
Once you're legally an adult and your parents are no longer expected to be (financially) responsible for you, then paying them rent seems only fair. As Lou said, once over 18 (or 19 if in full time education), parents no longer receive Child Tax Credits or Child Benefit which would have previously contributed to your upkeep.
That's especially why I give my Mom £20. She doesn't have much since loosing my child benefit so I give her that much a week to look after me. I would have given her more, but I said that £30 to me would have been too much as I need the £10 for odds and ends that I'd buy myself like food and cleaning stuff. ;)
I only work part-time but I still give 50% of my wages to my father. I wouldn't mind paying more either.
I think the moment you're over 18, you should pay rent. No excuses. Even if it isn't a lot, the fact that you're giving back, means more than the amount.
To keep on topic, I'll end here without going on about those _ _ _ _ _ _ _ shirkers.
i too think it's fair once you're working full-time to pay rent to your parents.
when i lived at home and was earning money i paid rent (i think from the age of about 19) but it wasn't much, i think about £40 for rent, food, bills etc. and i think it was important for me because i felt like i had some financial responsibilities and helped me feel a bit more grown-up. i think it contributed to helping me manage my finances once i moved out into my own flat.
I think it's fair to pay some towards bills and stuff.
My mum gets paid every two weeks so I pay her on the week she doesn't get anything
I'm glad to help out
My mum and stepdad are going through a hard time and it's nice to know I can help out
I started paying as soon as I started working.
Even now I can't afford driving lessons and stuff but I'd rather help them out while I'm living under their roof
I think it's totally fair, I was happy to pay my Ma and Pa when i lived at home. They still only charged me the most minute fraction of what it would cost to have my own place, but it helped me prepare for the budgeting I have to do now I have to pay a smelly mortgage and crappy bills. Tbh, I wanted to pay, besides the fact that they raised me for 16 years, they also continued to help me out financially whenever I've had a problem, so it felt good to contribute. I still go to Mum first if I have a money problem, Mum's are so much nicer than banks, not only does she sort out my cash flow but she makes me a nice cup of tea and a choccie biccie too :)
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