I had an appointment with my councellor at 6:30pm at this big bilding where there are like 15 different councellors that work from it. Anyhow, i got there and she wasn't there.
(apparently she had called my house to cancel because she was really sick, this was early in the morning) I didn't get her message cause I was out and ended up showing up anyways.
So the hall that she is down was black and locked so i knocked on another councellors door and asked him if he knew where she was, he said he didn't know. (this man was the only other person in the building) So i waited beside the hall of my councellors just to see if she would show up. Anyhow, she didn't so I went back up to this mans office and knocked to ask if i could use his phone, cause i didn't have mine on me.
he came out of his office and i asked for a phone.. he said "Look, I have a client, stop knocking on my door. I can't solve your problems, your old enough to figure this out for yourself". I started to cry at this point...As he began to turn away from me I said "**** you"... he slammed the door on my face.
First off, how the hell was i supposed to know he had a client, when i first came to talk to him i said, "sorry if im interupting" and he was like "no,no, your not" ... so i went back up looking for a phone.
So here I am.. DOWNTOWN ... in a sketchy area, wandering the streets at night (it was snowing)..trying to find a phone to call my parents to pick me up, just because this ****ed up therapist wouldn't help me and expected me to solve this by myself.. im 16 man.. i was scared, alone, freezing my ass off and ****ing yelled at. I wanted to go back and knock on his door again just to spite him...
"To dance is to be out of yourself. Larger, more beautiful, more powerful. This is power, it is glory on earth and it is yours for the takin..."
I would tell your one what he did, he had no right to treat you like that.
It's easier to run; Replacing this pain with something numb;It's so much easier to go;Than face all this pain here all alone;
Some people say courage is diving infront of a bullet, or bungy jumping off a bridge, but thats not true courage, true courage is facing everyday knowing that it won't be a happy go lucky day, but facing it anyway. It's facing your past, dealing with the present, and looking forward to brighter days.
What an idiot! Even if he was with a client, there was no way he should have been that rude to you. I agree with the others.... tell your counsellor about it next time you see her.
I think you have to consider this from his point of view too. Yes, he was a bit rude to you. However, when I'm seeing my support worker and someone knocks on the door, I hate it, even once that person has gone I clam up and get nervous and can't speak properly. So it probably was just that he was protecting his patients best interests slightly too agressively.
i can see both sides here, like heidi tiger, i hate it when people knock on the door when im in a session it freaks me out, it throws me off what i was saying and i ind it hard to continue.
saying that if i was spoken to like that a at counselling service i would be really upset. he maybe was trying to help his patient as above but he didnt talk to you in the right way at all, i would defintaly tell your therapist next time you see them.
well i had no idea he had a client and he even specificly told me the first time that i wasn't interrupting anything. .
and heidi tiger "he was a bit rude to you"... he was difinantly more than a bit rude to me... I was so so upset. He treated me like I was nothing,
I know i would be frusterated if someone knocked on my door as well but since he indicated before that i wasn't interrupting anything i definantly didn't deserve what i got.
i feel like he was just treating me like **** because i was alone and young. so he thought he could get away with saying anything to me.
I know im being really straight forward with you guys but im just really upset about the whole situation
"To dance is to be out of yourself. Larger, more beautiful, more powerful. This is power, it is glory on earth and it is yours for the takin..."
i think he should have handled it better. you're only 16. i would have been frightened. and he doesn't know what you see a counsellor for. i reckon he should've been a lot more careful. it's his fault, not yours. if you had've known he was in a session (and, like you said, you asked if you were interrupting and he said no - HIS responsibility) then you wouldn't have knocked his door.
sure, if i was in a therapy session and someone kept knocking on the door, i'd be cross and upset. but i'd rather that, than a 16-year old girl being hurt out in the town because she couldn't get the chance to make a phonecall.
there should've been someone else in the building, like a secretary.
i'm sorry this happened and it's worth talking through with your counsellor. and have your phone on you next time :)
