How do you feel when people insist on "helping" you whether you want them to or not?

[my.lullaby]

I mean along the lines of "I am telling your parents so they can get you help whether you want me to or not" or "I am telling your school counselor" or "You're going to therapy" or anything like that.

Personally, I was never pleased when that happened and I would lash out at people who did that even though I apologized later. I'm wondering about other opinions.

[Stellata]

Well, my parents never picked up on my depressions when I was living at home [I didn't know then that I was depressed but still]. Heck, I needed and would have appreciated some help. Although that's not self harm connected, I still believe people today are very lucky in that people want to help.

[Gone.]

I was threatened numerous times whilst at school with breaking confidentiality to tell my parents and a number of times, that was followed through. What helped, for me, was having the teachers there after confidentiality had been broken because then they had to listen to me as there wasn't the "I'm going to tell your parents" threat there any longer.

I think that the people that say this are only trying to help you and, although it doesn't feel very good, they don't know what else to do and at least they're taking you seriously. No, telling your parents might not be teh best plan but at least they're trying and something like therapy can be a great help if you give it a chance.

[PassedExpectations]

i wasn't pleased with them (actually was very angry and hurt) but looking back, it was the right thing for them to do

[Celticroots]

That never happened to me, but telling someone was the right thing for them to do. They have your best interests at heart. If one of my friends was self-harming I would definitely tell the school counselor regardless of whether they wanted me to or not.

[Batmansx_xTeddy]

I have experienced this before and I do not like it one bit and honestly it didn't help me it just made things worse. When my mom found out about my self harm there was alot of yelling and I was grounded and forced to see a therapist. She even told my whole family and my school counselor which made everything a hundred times more complicated and emotional for me since I hated people knowing about it. I didn't want any help and I refused to talk to my therapist and in the end me and my mom had a huge fight in his office and I never went back. I honestly just got better at hiding my self harm after that and me and my mom just didn't talk about it anymore so I just started wearing short sleeves and self harming in places no one could see so that she wouldn't be suspicious about it. I am a firm believer in the idea that If you don't want to get better than you most likely won't and when people try to force help upon you it usually makes it worse. I think you have to want to get better on your own before you can truly start to recover and get help.