i'm 15 and terrified of school, i wasn't before but now i am.
it all started last year when i joined a very popular group of girls, i was real close with them but then some problems occured and we broke up, after that they would purposely talk about me in class loud enough do i'd overhear, they got bored after a couple of months and stopped, but now one of the girls has started again, she throws things at me in class and 1 of my friends just laughs and joins in, she terrorises me and purposely pushes me, im terrified of school and too scared to report it, my mum's noticed i dont speak and do much at home anymore as i used to be very loud and happy, in fact every1 has noticed a change, i can't even eat properly my appetite has gone i feel really dpressed and want someone 2 talk 2, any advice?
Have you told any teachers that you trust?..thats what I did, I've been bullied for now 8 years and telling a teacher you trust can really help. You could always write it all down and give it to someone, becuase if you want it to stop, you have to tell someone
No Day But Today
Damaged people are dangerous. They know they can survive
Thanku but itz not tha' easy, i kno tha' if i tell they'l jus carry on takin the mick kuz last yr i did tell and the only reason they stopped then was becus it was summer holz nt kuz i told, they'll cal me a snitch and tha'.... = [
they won't call you a snitch...
plus name calling is only small compared the the bullying and the pain they're putting you through...
I've always been terrified of school as used to be bullied in a boarding school.
I never told anyone and regret it, please I urge you, tell someone....
Even confiding in your parents (do you have a good relationship with them?)
even if they carry on with the name calling, by telling someone they'll be monitored. perhaps you could change classes or something...
As a little kid you believed in fairytales,
that fantasy of what your life would be: white dress; prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill.
You closed your eyes and had complete and utter faith.
Eventually you grow up. One day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears.
But the thing is, it's hard to let go of that fairytale entirely because almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith,
that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true.
u dont undastand u see last yr wen i tld off about them they called me a snitch and an imformer and they tell evry1 els what i did and make them call me names 2, i lost loads of friends because i had a full on confidence blow, i dont wanna tel my parents because obv. they'l end up telin school an im not alowd 2 change classes as im in yr 10 and exams etc. complicate class change... =[
It doesn't sound like the school did a very good job of stopping it. Pushing is assault and your parents could threaten to go to the police if the school doesn't do something about it. Schools have anti-bullying policies and your parents will be the ones that can fight this for you. If your school has a learning mentor go and speak to them.
You can always ring child line. xx
2day, wen i was on ther facebook, i realised by best mate was laughing and joking about it with that girl, i cudnt beleve it = [
How can my own mate laugh about it like its a joke? i dont get it. :s
Have you got a school counsellor or anything? They might be able to work with you to get something done about the bullying which you are comfortable with. I know that making the step to see one is huge if you haven't already. As Elphaba said, if you want things to change you need to do something about it.
I think you really do need to talk to your parents. Don't fell ashamed of being in this situation because you have done nothing wrong. From what you have said your parents must have an idea that something is up, and they will want to help you. With all the stress of year 10 and exams, being tormented by these girls is the last thing you need to put yourself though.
I was involved in a similar situation when I was in year 10, but the abuse was physical. I complained to teachers but nothing ever happened, until my mum called the principal. The principal arranged meeting and scared the living daylight out of the person involved. The girls who are tormenting you need a HUGE wake up call, not a slap on the wrists. I am not sure what country you live in but I know that in Australia there is free legal advice for young people under the age of 18. They can contact the school on your behalf and make the teachers and principal do something about it. What you are dealing with is a serious problem, emotional abuse and cyber bullying. Don't feel like contacting these people is an extreme measure, they are there to help. If you have any questions about free legal advice in other countries I can help you out, just leave me a PM.
So you have a number of choices. I know they are not that easy to do, please try to do something though. You do not have to put up with this and there are many people who will support you. If you want to talk further or need any help or advice with anything feel free to contact me at any time. I hope things get better for you, don't let these girls get away with treating you this way.
Last edited by söt : 21-05-2009 at 01:01 PM.
Reason: half of what I typed made no sense
