Moving Out

forever_lost · 26-08-2013, 05:33 AM

So this is where my life is at. I'm in my 3rd year of college/uni, I just turned 21 and I'm transferring to a school out of my hometown, therefore, I got a little apartment and I'm (mostly) moving out. Hopefully I'll be able to come back home most weekends, since I'll only be living 45 minutes away. But I've lived here my entire life, and now that I'm actually starting to pack up my room, I feel like I'm getting homesick already. It's the empty spaces...it doesn't feel right. And I guess the main thing is, this feels big. It feels like the biggest change I've ever made, to live away from home, away from my family, to take care of myself and my space without help, and to go to school while doing it, maybe even getting a job if I can handle it, all in an unfamiliar place. It's like one of those "you're growing up" kind of things. And even though I think I feel as ready as I ever will...I'm still pretty scared. Scared about it being hard, and scared about missing home. So I guess I'm just looking for any advice or encouragement anyone has related to this. How did moving out for the first time go for you?

Beautifully Broken · 26-08-2013, 07:21 AM

I moved out of home with my partner when I was 20 after finding out I was pregnant and knowing that there was no space at my mum's for us all to stay there.
Yes it felt weird packing up my bedroom. Yes it felt even more weird seeing empty spacing and everything packed up in boxes. Unlike you, everything in my room went as my sister was getting my room from me once it was decorated.
You'll feel homesick for a while when you first move out, but you'll soon adapt to it.
Main thing is to remember to budget as you don't want to run out of money. You'll become great at budgeting.
And think of it this way, its not like you're completely moving out considering you can still go home at weekends to stay.
Plus, you'll learn to me more independent too. Which is a bonus.

BridgesAndBalloons · 26-08-2013, 12:57 PM

I think it's totally normal to be experiencing what you're experiencing, feeling scared is understandable because it's quite a step to take.

I found moving out to be quite odd, and it was quite hard at the beginning as I had practically nothing, so having to get bits and pieces for a home and starting from scratch was a bit tough. It got easier though, as mentioned budgeting is incredibly helpful, and being aware of what things you'll have to pay for, water rates, home insurance etc etc and writing those down too can help. Maybe looking at it as mostly moving out, instead of totally moving out might help. Spending the week at your place, then with your family for the weekend, might help it to seem like not such a massive change, because you'll still be around your family regularly.

I live a few hundred miles from my family so I don't see them terribly often, but when I do go and stay with them, while I really enjoy it, I'm always happy to come back home. You just have so much more freedom to come and go as you please in your own place. Best of luck with everything, hope it goes well :)

teachit · 05-09-2013, 05:40 AM

When I moved into my dorm at school it was weird. When I moved out on my own it was weirder and scarier. However, it was good. I found more independence. I found a lot of comfort in knowing I could still go home if I needed to and I did when I wanted to. And you will be able to do it.