RIP Mike [4.1.06] RIP Grandma [8.2.08] Jon&Nicole[1.6.09] Sometimes when i say "oh i'm fine..."
i want someone to look me in the eyes and say "tell the t r u t h"
it is hard to cut down .im trying myself and i have seen what it does to ppl .one thing i will say is dont drink during the day thats the worst thing to do ever
try and leave it till the night time to have a tipple at least
and as i was saying in the other thread ,try leaving it till the weekend and maybe wednesday night and leaving the other nights free
it can be done ,try watching dvds or going to the cinema or just going for a walk .
if you drive try leaving it till late in the evening that u get your shopping and that so you just cant drink at all ,this does work especially if you want to eat
if you like reading ,nd i have done this too ,drinking and reading dont mix !!
when u get caught up in a book u dont feel the need to be swigging on something
being kept busy is important i know work was quiet for me and thats why i starting drinking i was depressed ,is there a reason that ur drinking so much ,can u get to the core of this issue and try and resolve it
thats the main thing really to be honest from my point of view theres always a reason for someone drinking and getting to the base of this is important
think about it seriously and ask yourself why do you feel the need to buy alcohol and to numb yourself
life can be very hard for the most part and we ned support and its not often we get support
i know that and its very tough to cut down and especially to come out and write you rown thread and admit you have a problem so well done and your on the road to recovery now
take each day as it comes and know that ur not alone ,we are all struggling and we will be there for each other and try and help one another becos its not easy but it is worth it to be sober for a week becos you feel so good at the end of it i swear
i hope this helps cos i know how u feel
sorry i didnt want to make this sounding like about me me me but im just trying to say ur not alone and i empathise if im making any sense
Last edited by consequential : 28-05-2009 at 04:10 PM.
You're strength is incredible...even if you don't know if it will last. Even if you take a step back and say, 'not now' you know that power is within you for when you're ready. Alcohol abuse has a lot to do with powerlessness, but by finding it within yourself, you've set yourself up for a good fighting chance.
I'm proud of you, Zed. Seriously.I can't tell you how much.
Best of luck man. I know first hand, vodka can be a harsh mistress, especially when you think she's all you've got.
my advice, don't think about how far into the future you think you can maintain your motivation, it can all change in a moment. If you keep your energy focused in the present moment your chances might be better
Hey Zedebee Im so glad some of what I wrote you may have kinda got
and hey u didnt drink till 8 last night ,thats good isnt it ??
Is it all vodka that expensive **** to be drinking really
hugs i hope you stay strong ,but look how many ppl are supporting you and hey arent you 'loved' come on girl you can do it
You aren't alone in this. You have us. There are also some groups out there, in real life, if that might help?
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
You aren't wasting our time! We're here to take care of each other.
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
Zed you aren't wasting anyones time! You can do this please don't give up and I am always online or down the road if you need to talk or just want a bit of a distractions. You are not alone in this there are lots of people who care and will help you.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
For me it felt like the slip up was trying to stop
There's an AA meeting nearby that I can easily get to but a) I'm not even trying to stop and b) I'm not sure they'd accept me 'cause it's only been about 2 years *shrug*
Katy (Buttons.) I don't think I ever actually did stop completely the first time. I can't remember
blondiebear I can't take care of myself let alone anybody else, I'm completely useless at helping anybody
Katy (Pixie) thanks sweetheart =)
The only time you will find real light is when you're searching in the dark..
I really identify with the 'slip up was tring to stop' bit, I really really can though with a differant situation.
They would accept you-2 years is plenty long enough, though if you don't want to try and stop it might be best to wait until you have decided whether or not you want to try.
'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'
['There is only one thing we say to death. Not today'.']
'We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell. Oscar Wilde
Its hard to dance with the devil on your back. Sydney Carter
zed, i really think its worth trying to stop and going to AA if you feel able to.
they would definatly accept you.
sorry i'm useless today
PM me anytime though
I'm pretty certain I never said I'd completely stopped. I said I'd reduced it to a bit in the evenings but never completely stopped.
You're not useless Beth *hugs* thank you and I hope you're ok...
Have sent a text to a friend of my dad's asking if I can talk to her about something in confidence. I'm really hoping that she replies soon and that she might be free to meet me today
There's not much left til I completely fall apart and break down
I'm terrified about what this is doing to me
And I'm terrified about talking to her
But I need the help
The only time you will find real light is when you're searching in the dark..
