Crushing on someone, yet afraid of relationships...

[-Asphyxia-]

*sigh*

So, I met this guy through a mutual friend of ours a few weeks ago...I was out the other evening visiting my bartender friend, and he shows up. Long story short, we end up having a blast (albeit drinking waaay too much.) He crashes at my place (don't worry - we didn't sleep together - lol), and we spent all of yesterday hanging out and running around town...

Ugh. He's sweet, and we have quite a bit in common. I couldn't stop thinking about him all day, and I was really tempted to call him this evening...I didn't want to be clingy/desperate though. I'm thinking of inviting him to a punk show on Monday night...

Anyways, it's the same thing over and over: I meet someone, end up being interested, but I avoid anything more than hanging out a few times or anything more than a friendship. It never gets serious...b/c I'm scared of getting screwed over (again).

How can I get over this? I'm not saying (or expecting that) this guy is going to "change it all" for me, but...Really? It's getting old!

Thanks for the help.

[simi]

im not really sure what to suggest but i get the same sort of problem i want a relationship but trust issues get in the way
i guess i would say go for it and hope it works out for the best
sorry not much help
xxx

[-Asphyxia-]

It's okay - Thanks for the input though...Sometimes I feel like the last single person (or eternally single person) on earth.

[simi]

i guess the only way to try and get past it is to try and take it slow and see what happens, its hard to get past the things that have messed you up in the past and its hard to trust other people not to hurt you but if you never give it a chance then you may never find a bit of happiness...
dont know if that makes any sense???
xxx

[Tears of Solitude]

I was scared of getting hurt but you have to take one day at a time and try not to tar every man with the same brush.

Its all about baby steps about letting them get close. Also there should be a spark that attracts you to them that makes you want to spend more and more time with.

Trust is one of the last things that come when you have been hurt but give this guy the benefit of the doubt before he does something wrong.

Just enjoy the moment, take one day at a time. Dont think about is this going to be a long term relationship. Just enjoy it xxx

Wishing you all the luck in the world

Jade xxx

[-Asphyxia-]

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Originally Posted by simi

i guess the only way to try and get past it is to try and take it slow and see what happens, its hard to get past the things that have messed you up in the past and its hard to trust other people not to hurt you but if you never give it a chance then you may never find a bit of happiness...
dont know if that makes any sense???
xxx

Yes, that makes sense. *hearts*

And Tears, I appreciate your input as well.

I know I tend to overreact about these sort of things... Sorry for my lame relationship posts...

If things get "more intense" with us, I will tell him I need to take things slow, though I hope that's not too annoying for him...Guys can be silly about those sort of things. *rolls eyes*