Aggression

[Sunshine]

Im getting these teribble periods of aggression, where everything just bubbles up and i start hitting things and screaming at anyone in sight! i know it doesnt sound weird but i keep on just shouting and hitting my brother and i enjoy it! Its like i get some perverse pleaure out of it! I also just had a massive episode with my mum and i ended up shoving her, which i would never normally do! so now she is really annoyed with me! its just really horrible because i cant control it! i have all these emotions at the moment which i just cant control and its really taking its toll on me and my family and im just worried it will start to effect my friendships too soon

[brokendancer]

is there someone who you could talk to about it...a psyc, doctor friend ect

[Tuesday]

I have similar problems sometimes, with inappropriate aggression. When I'm in one of those moods, I try to just tell people (as nicely as I can manage) that I'm just in a really bad mood and to please just leave me alone for now. I like to exercise while I listen to some good angry/loud music and get rid of all that energy. After you do something like that, it's easier to manage and you probably won't feel so aggressive. I figure that doing stuff until I've exhausted the anger/aggression is better than taking it out on other people.

[Sunshine]

Yer i might try just telling the person im around that im feeling angry and agressive thanks! and the doing exercise thing is good too! i will take your advice thank you!

i dont really have anyone i can talk to tho because my cpn doesnt really care!

[Tig]

Hey,

I can relate to parts of what you wrote. It's pretty horrible, isn't it?! It's difficult to know how to control it, sometimes I find I act out on the anger and then suddenly I realise what I've done. I must be ok at controlling it at other times though because the only people I get angry with are my family!

I think it is a good idea to tell who you are around that you are feeling aggressive/angry/agitated and maybe think through what you would find most helpful. Does it help you to be left alone or do you find that more aggravating? Do you need to be distracted/get out the house etc.
Also, do any of the sort of anger management strategies help you? It might be worth researching a few ideas and seeing if any of them work for you.

I guess one thing that is very important is making repairs afterwards. If you've already shouted at somebody then you can't go back in time and change that (not meant in a bad way) so maybe try and show you are sorry by doing something nice for them/apologising etc. I know it doesn't change it but at least it goes some way to let them know you didn't mean it etc.
Good luck.x