Triggering (Sexual Abuse) - Wanna talk :/

white_silent_darkness · 13-05-2009, 01:30 PM

I wanna talk... I really need to talk.... I dunno how to now.... think I wanna try and talk in person... but cant

I did have a counsellor but that didnt work out..... I have tried to find a counsellor since then but kept being left down and so now becoming really unsure about it which aint good.

I have told a few of my friends about what happened to me.... they have spoken through a through things at the time of telling them But now, although they are the ones I really wanna talk to, I cant. I feel a burden - Though my friend has said not to be silly she wants to help and Im not a burden on her. Another thing is I dunno how to bring things up :( Or keep a conversation going if I do manage to start talking. See I would like them to maybe ask me things ya know I find that kinda helps but then they dunno what to say as they dont want to hurt me. Also, I feel I may have to go back over thigns which I dont think they would want to listen to again.

Dunno what to do now :(

bobbiwibble · 13-05-2009, 02:24 PM

why dont you maybe try telling them THAT? that you really need to talk but you dont know what to say or how to bring it up.

me and my boyfriend play the yes-no game when I have to tell him something scary has happened, and then once he knows what it is that i'm trying to say it's easier to open up and talk about it

hope that helps a bit
xxxxbobbi

distant_yellow · 13-05-2009, 08:53 PM

I know.. its hard, but you've gotten over the biggest bump already by making the decision to talk to someone. You obviously have good friends, but i know its hard to follow up on something like that. Could you maybe send your friend an email or pass them a note saying that it is really difficult to talk about these things, and then ask if you two could go somewhere in private to talk about it? Your friend may not know that you want to talk about something so painful until you actually bring it up.

mellie22 · 13-05-2009, 09:41 PM

I am in a very similar situation. Whenever I really really need to talk to my friend about something that's happened/something that I'm upset about I will either text or instant message her and say something like I really need to talk but am having trouble bring it up. That way, next time we talk SHE can be the one to bring it up and it doesn't seem as big a deal to me.

white_silent_darkness · 16-05-2009, 03:34 PM

Thank you all for your replies and advice.

I did try saying to her this morning about needing to talk but it kinda came out wrong We talked a little about something But then we went on to a happy subject so I just left it as I do like these chats. Makes me happier. Though I still really need to talk. Think Im going to try and email her or maybe text. That yes/no idea looks good Think I might us that one