why is it poeple die
2 people i know have died in the matter of 3 days
yesterday i found out srah(forgotten angel) died and also i found out soeone i was really close to was murdered=[ i cnt deal; with this me n this person was close =[
xhel;p x
i'm really sorry to hear you've lost so many, it must be really hard, especially because it's all happening in such little time. do you know these two people well? can you talk to someone who was a mutual friend? it's important to not let yourself struggle with this on your own. everyone else is going through it too, help keep each others' heads above water.
everything will be okay, you just gotta hang in there right now yeh?
Hey hun, I'm going through a similar thing. I've lost two people in the last two months to suicide. I was very, very, very close to them. And the pain is so bad, incredibly so. I don't know how I can possibly carry on if I didn't have my therapist, counselor, etc caring for me. I have three people I can talk to and who can let my feelings be what they are. You really need to talk to someone about what you're going through. Suicide and murder are very traumatic on the survivors. It is really, really, really a good idea to find someone to talk to. Who you can call up anytime when you start to breakdown. Also, try to get some closure in their deaths. Write letters to them, attend their funerals, etc. It will help. It might also help finding a book on grieving, I have bought one myself, it helps you rationalize out what has happened. Just know you CAN make it through this! I know, I know, I KNOW it hurts so bad and you question how you can make it through...and, ugh, I don't know how else I can tell you about it. If you need some support, you can PM me, we can make it through this together. I promise.
(And it's okay to cry and not hurt yourself in other ways, I'm doing it now)
ive just found out the one who was fought to have been murdered was found
shes alive
the dead person was someone who looked like her but ended up not being her
*cuddles* I am afraid my brain is not focused enough to give proper words of help right now, but will try and pop by again later. PM box is open any time.
Otherwise, I know the grief forum is often visited by people who are going through similar feelings and can help.
If the Human brain were so simple that we could understand it, we would be so simple that we wouldn't.
I'm pleased that your friend is alive and safe, that's very good.
What has happened to Sarah was very, very sad, and it's normal to feel upset about it. x
Grief is a horrible thing, but it's something that has to be worked through and it will ease, in time. Which I know it's helpful right now, but it is very true.
I don't know whether you knew Allie, but she was a member on here, and she went to Heaven last year. The pain and hurt that that caused many members of this board was immense, and it still hurts me and hits me everyday that one of my best friends is no longer here, and I can't just pick up that phone and call her, or give her a text. We can't laugh, or support each other, we can't do anything anymore..... And that hurts, and the pain is unbearable sometimes. At other times it's less pain and hurt, and more peaceful feelings. I've locked away how I truly feel, and what I think about what happened - and there is going to be a time when I am going to have to unlock that box and work through that stuff..... I think it would have been better had I of been able to work through it at the time, but I couldn't - and so I didn't.
I think it's hard to think that people die, and it's also really scary and it makes you see just how fragile life is. Sometimes people die through illness, sometimes it's through suicide, or maybe even murder and there are lots of different thoughts and emotions that are linked around those different situations.
Grief is horrific, but it is normal.
Also, I think situations like this make you realise just how much people would hurt if anything ever happened to you - on those days where we think we'd be better off gone, that everyone would be happy and better off without us - is it true? Is it really true? You look at when the members of this board have done something, or gone to Heaven and the people they leave behind, hurting every single day - Something to think about for everyone.... Perhaps.
There are organisations that can help with grief, if you are interested?
Cruse Bereavement Care.
National charity offering counselling, support, help and advice to the bereaved. Has more than 6,000 trained counsellors.
Helpline: 0844 477 9400
Young persons helpline: 0808 808 1677
Website: www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk
Email: helpline@cruse.org.uk
Samaritans.
Confidential emotional support for anyone in a crisis.
24-hour helpline: 0845 790 9090 (UK); 1850 609090 (RoI)
Website: www.samaritans.org
Also, depending on how old you are, GetConnected is also a really good source of help. They do not provide counselling or advice, but they can help you to find the right support line for you - it is FREE and they will conenct you (if you wanted) to the support line they have found for you for FREE and then speak to the person on that support line to let them know a little about what is happening with you (you are listening to this) and then they will hand over, you can then speak to them.
Get Connected.
Telephone Number - 0808 808 4994
They do also have an email link.
They have a Webchat too, which is YOU and a worker from Get Connected in a kinda, MSN conversation and they will help to find you the right help, if you don't find talking easy this might be a good idea. It's 7pm till 10pm every evening. GetConnectedWebsite - You can find everything you need here.
Maybe they would be worth a go? Sometimes having someone to talk to about how you are feeling is really helpful and although it's hard to ring and talk, it's usually very worth it. You don't have to be alone in this. xxxxx
-“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.” Anais Nin-
Allie, Mutt, Great Grandma, Hope and Humbug. I love you and miss you all. xx
