I come on here, draw, write a letter to someone write simple words how i feel on top and then shred it, music, punching a pillow, rant to a friend, deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation (i use that when i can't sleep)
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I meditate a form of meditation that breaks compulsive thinking and feeling - its an anti-hypnotic sort a thing. First week I did it I quit smoking without trying (and I was pack a day for some years)
Last edited by typsee : 12-07-2007 at 12:34 PM.
Reason: a bit too rough and too close to home for some members to be permitted ... even as a joke.
Some good ideas are things that are going to distract you, such as
browsing for funny videos in YouTube
going into RYLs Chat
playing games in the Arcade
putting on calming music
having a nice warm bath
reading a book or magasine
scribbling, drawining
writing about how you feel
deep breathing + visualising a calming place
mediation
yoga/tai chi
coming online
Even try colouring in a mandala. This link here provides some, just click on the one you want and it will give you a black and white version to print so you can colour. It sounds plain but can be quiet soothing because you're focussing on colours and things other than you stress. Even have a bit of nice music in the background!
I was actually going to make a thread like this, so thank you!!
Take Care,
Aimee xoxo
I write and then rip it up. Or I do like a caligraphy type of things with all the words that pop into my head that aren't happy and I draw around them and then I put it away locked up in my drawer full of them and then when jacob(my friend and support) comes around I show him as long as he is not in a not so good mood cause they can be quite triggering. I also write poetry.
and you dont wanna be here in the future
so you say the presants just a pleasant interuption to the past
and you dont wanna look much closer
cause ur afriad to find out all this hope
you had sent into the sky by now had
crashed
and it did
because of me
Something Corporate- Konstantine...
Everyone else has replied with some really good ideas. Here are a few that I didn't think anyone else has said yet - Going for a walk to clear your mind, counting to ten and breathing deeply, having a bath to relax yourself, screaming into a pillow, going for a run to release energy.. etc. Hope you find some that are useful to you. :)
"When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around.”
I find colouring helps hey! i bought a kids colouring book (sad i know) and concentrated really hard on trying to make things look neat and even etc etc that took a lot of concentration and that helps me calm down?
if you're like me and the blood calms you down, using red food coloring helps A LOT. it stains your skin though so be careful XP
also whatever is bothering me, whatever made me feel the need, i write a story about. make up names for people nd then have it end in a way that makes me happy : ) (usually my boyfriend comes back from iraq nd makes everything better)
but if all else fails, run. run like hell. til your lungs are gonna burst nd your legs are gonna fall off.
I usually train really hard, go running, cycling or whatever, the sense of speed, the wind whipping through your hair, the pushing of yourself against the laws of physics and the pushing of your body, the pumping of adrenalin. Yeah.
Or just get a big big big punch bag, 5 foot tall and then lay into the damn thing with everything you have. The feel of a successful punch or a kick sending the bag flying is great lol.
Yeah anyway....
I think for me the really important thing is to catch things before they really get out of control, like start doing constructive calming things when I'm just a little antsy before I ever get to that full-blown desperate "I-want-out-now!" stage.
I'm a *huge* fan of exercise, it always helped me a lot when I was really wound up bad to just run as fast as I possibly could for as long as I possibly could until I was absolutely exhausted. Now I have a membership in a karate dojo where I can work out really hard several times a week, that's pretty good for my mental health as just kind of a preventative thing.
Deep breathing is really good too. I have a stressful job where there are a lot of problems that are literally life-and-death for other people and I have to stay calm through it, and deep breathing is something they teach us that you can do anytime, anywhere, and it really calms me down fast. I find that I usually have to do other stuff like talking with a friend or co-worker afterwards, though, otherwise I don't really process it and I go back to being wound up again.
Taking a warm shower helps me sometimes, especially if my muscles are all tense.
I also meditate for 18 minutes everyday too (why 18? just cuz I like that number!) and that's really good for just kind of de-stressing and processing my day. If anything really major comes up or sticks with me after the meditation I talk to a friend I can trust about it, and if I can't talk with a friend immediately I write about it and then talk about it to a friend at the next opportunity. The fact of the matter is that occasionally I can be kinda crazy, so I need to get the input of people that have a clearer perspective sometimes.
After I've calmed down from being upset, I turn my attention to somebody I can help, nice things I can do for other people. It's really cheesy, I know, but it works for me. It doesn't even need to be a big thing, just smile at the people I pass in the street (even though I really don't feel like smiling), or ask people how they're doing and really listen when they tell me, or call up a friend just to say hi, or even just do the dishes for my roommates without expecting anything in return. It's all about distracting myself from my crazy thoughts so that I don't go back to them.
~mark
Last edited by strange_err : 17-07-2007 at 10:01 PM.
Reason: a little bird told me to
i know lots of people have said meditation and i ditto it. my kitties also help. it is really calming to sit and pet one. something that works for me when i feel real sh**ty is i try to help someone else. i can usually find someone else who feel as bad if not worse than me. when i focus on them then i forget about what has upset me and often i get a new perspective on what was upsetting me.
come and join me. then world domination.
mmmwuhahahahahahaha.
i like to commit raoh's (random acts of hugging)
HazardxToxMyselfx3 = sister
hahaugotpunked87 = fairy-god half step sister
Katiebean = pet moose
morbida = third cousin once removed
BIG MOMMA!!!!
