talks about drugs but I don't think its triggering

[tanyafrias]

I'm not sure if this is were I should post this but here it goes...

My husband was clean for 4 years from speed when we got married on jan of 09. Well last month he used once and went to jail for 2 weeks. He got out and for a week everything was great and back to normal. Well last monday and friday he used speed again. He started yelling and saying things like "I hate you why don't you kill yourself" "I want a divorce" ect. but on thursday after he came down off the drug he was fine told me he was sorry and that he loved me and didn't want the divorce... then friday he used again and now he won't look at me and he sleeps on the floor downstairs. I don't know what to do, he hasn't hit me or threatened me but I've never seen this side of him... his family said that he's scared I'm gonna be like his ex's and leave him so he went to using to cover it up... is there a way to help him?

I'm lost and confused.

[Katiee]

I'm sorry to hear that hun. *HUGS*
Maybe talk to him about how he is towards you when he takes speed? Maybe try and get him professional help? Idk. Just make sure you stay safe. Take care, sweetie. xo.

[Mad-Mad-World]

Make sure you stay safe, first of all. Sometimes people don't exactly realize their strength when they're on speed, as well as not exactly realizing how hurtful their actions can be. But, I'd say maybe you could try to talk about his use, and why he's using, once he's not sped up, of course. Make sure he knows that you're there for him, but you won't support his addiction. Maybe recommend counseling to him, and offer to go with if he wants?

Also, I just wanted to offer hugs. It's hard to have to deal with a partner's substance abuse, and you need to make sure that you're taking care of yourself first.

[squirrelspit]

Have you tried speaking to him about it?
Tell him that he's hurting you.
Reassure him that youre not planning on going anywhere.. and maybe suggest a rehab type course that you could attend together if he wanted to?

I dont hvae much advice, but like those above me said, keep yourself safe.