I'm cutting more and more now. I start to head bang as well. My mom started Chemo again, and I just started up again. No one knows...And I didn't think it could be addicting. I just saw it as somthing that would take the pain away. Now I do it all the time. I don't know what to do. Should I tell my parents? Or should I keep it to myself? Should I tell somone at school, or someone else that I care about? Or should I just get help somewhere else? Or should I not say anything at all and see if it goes away?
My opinion is that you should tell someone... I know that is a very very very very hard thing to do. Do you have someone that you told before? I just know from personal experience that the longer you let it go without telling someone, the harder it's going to be to stop.
I hope that you have someone that you trust and can at least give a heads up to about this... I know that it is hard, and if you want someone to talk to feel free to PM me. I just don't want you to be caught in this and not be able to see a way out. If someone knows, it might make it easier to break the habit...
*Megan*
"The LORD your God is with you,he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing." ~ Zephaniah 3:17
"Cheer Up. Tommorow will be different. Not Better. Just Different." ~ Barbara Johnson
if you say nothing it will only worsen. I tried that...
and after 4 years im am going to tell my school counselor on monday so she can help me tell my parents.
want to do it too? :) it will help im hoping..
Please talk.....
To anyone, to everyone, but keep talking.
My PM box is open, always. I've been there, it's doable and it CAN get better but that first step is talking.
Whether you need someone to listen, to advise, to console, just talk and let yourself accept help.
If you want that help to come from here as a first step....listening already.
x
I think you should tell somebody, someone you trust. They can be understanding and support you, people can help. You just have to be prepared and remember slipping up is part of recovery, don't give up you can do it.
I have to remind myself that some birds just aren't meant to be caged.
Their feathers are just too bright.
And when they fly away, the part of you that knows it was a sin to lock them up rejoices.
Still, the place you live in is that much more drab and empty when they're gone.
You should definatly tell someone! Anyone. Friend, family member, teacher, someone. Someone you trust and feel can talk to. The longer it goes the worse it will get. It's really impotant to have somebody that you can lean on and will help you. *hugs* Feel free to pm me anytime.
Hun,
As already said, I think it would be a really good idea to tell someone. Please do not keep this to yourself. Also, when you have urges try your best not to give in to them and keep yourself busy. There's loads of people you could tell. The best person to tell would be someone who is a professional so they can give you the right support/help needed. To get that maybe tell a family member first then ask to go to the doctors and ask them what help they can offer you. Good luck and take care. xx
The banging is secondary. You have been upset and have a lot of suppressed rage. If you struggle with the banging you'll be struggling with surface symptoms and will probably just frustrate yourself and make them worse. If you can modify your anger to problems then you wont have a lot of suppressed stuff to try to cope with using banging etc. I know you have a lot to be upset about but as natural as it seems to be upset it just makes things worse. That doesn't mean you want to suppress the anger. Sometimes talking honestly with people about your feelings (even if it offends them) is better than trying to bury it - just to have come blasting out anyway.
Last edited by Isoverity : 10-03-2009 at 10:23 PM.
