Betrayed? *poss trig*

[EmTeeEm]

Next week I'm off to Stratford upon avon to help out with my schools project week, I've left now so I'm technically not a student but they're going to see Macbeth and I'm a bit of a literature geek so anyway they're letting me go.

Went in to school today for my sisters presentation morning and was cornered by the pastoral care worker, an irritating little woman who I've had a few run ins with in the past over overdosing/sh etc, she takes me in to a room, brings in my form tutor (whos coming on the trip) and starts going on about "care plans" and my "safety" and what will I do if I feel bad/desperate etc. Turns out she'd already called the clinic I go to and spoken to my counsellor. Anyway they'd already decided that if I did do anything then they'd call my parents and get them to pick me up or take me to hospital regardless, so I'm being treated like a naughty under 16 year old with no confidentiality or rights.

Worst thing is I've always thought me and my form tutor had really got on and I feel awful that she couldn't come say all this to me herself. Am I just being irrational by feeling so betrayed and angry about this or am I right to?

Sigh

[craola]

I can totally understand why you feel betrayed, but I think they're just making sure you understand that there would be big consequences if anything happened. My college did the same when I went to San Francisco, I was 18 and they still treated me like a child.
I dont, however think she had the right to call your counsellor without telling you, I would not have been very impressed at that, she probably did have thr right but I think it would have been fairer to talk to you first. It was probably the care worker who planned all this, your tutor maybe would have asked you first and that was why she let the other woman tell you instead.

[ghosts in the machine]

That sounds annoying. Can you talk to your form tutor on her own and say that you're over 16, you can handle this maturely, and you'd appreciate it if you were given a say in those plans.

But seriously; I was furious when people did that to me - you've got every right to feel angry and betrayed about it.

[EmTeeEm]

I just wished she'd come to me first with out getting that irritating cow involved. I just sat squirming in my chair as the woman "tactfully" tiptoed around the fact that she is convinced I'll do something "stupid".. I just felt like some sort of exhibition and now even more of a burden seeing as I'm "such a concern"... It hought I knew my tuor better than that and that maybe she could of said it to me first, or at least warned me. Suprised the pastoral woman didn't phone the unit as well as the flaming clinic, she'd obviously built a case against me and asked if I'd be okay and I said probably, met by a " oh wll we cant have a probably Emma" so I had o say I'd be fine.. how can I guarentee that?! Blah sorry for ranting

xx