mum as named carer?

[jen-x]

Hey,
I noticed that a few people on here have parents who are well aware of your 'problems' and are perhaps even carers? I'm 22 years old and am moving back home on finishing my uni course (not looking like i'm going to graduate, but i cant face any more!!) and it doesnt look like i'm going to be working.

Anyway, At uni I have a care plan and a named housemate who has to contact my doc or psych if i get worse or become a serious danger and make sure i'm takin meds properly (i lose it quickly when i stop). I'm already quite concerned about moving to the other end of the country as i'm not sure i'll get much help up there. my problem is is that my parents are clearly going to become more aware. they know bits. They don't know how serious it has been/can become though. I just cant imagine discussing it with my mum and worse still asking her to look out for signs/remind me to take meds!

how do you do it?

i hate asking for advice on here coz i'm never on, but i didnt know who else would have experience!

jen xx

Heya,

My Mum is my named carer, and I also have three part time carers who the local pct fund me for, so my Mum can have a life of her own as well as caring for me.

Because I became very unwell when I was still a child as such (13/14) my parents were told a lot about my condition and how to handle it. So for me I'm quite used to having my Mum knowing everything. However, no one knew anything until I disclosed to my Mum Iwas self harming (age 13/14 this was) and had been for six months. So it was really hard for them to take that in and learn what wasgoing on in my head. So I do have soem idea of what it will be like for you.

All I can say is think of it as gradual evolution, it won't all happen at once, they'll become aware of things gradually. Could you discuss your fears with someone and maybe work out a system for how you want your parents to react to it?