Bringing stuff up from the past

pixiedust · 12-02-2009, 06:47 PM

Is bringing stuff up from the past a good idea? I've shut it all away but I know it still affects me. I brought some stuff up yesterday and ever since I've felt very small, insecure and vulnerable. I'm not used to feeling like this. I found out today that I don't need to talk about this stuff in CBT so I'm relieved, but I'm also wondering whether I should face this stuff, and also whether I can do it alone. Or should I just shut it all back away and forget about it again? The only problem is that the CBT will be trying to help me with the negative feelings towards myself but I know that that will stir up a lot of things from the past.

I'm not really sure what the point of this post is but if anyone could spare some love or kindness it really would be appreciated.

troubleshooter · 12-02-2009, 08:11 PM

You prob knew my respsonse but I'll say it anyway. You should get it out, in a controlled setting of course but it should come out. You don't want it all staying with you because it will bubble up in different ways to upset you. *hugs*

DestroyMe · 12-02-2009, 11:14 PM

*hugs you* at some point you have to face what's there..I'm doing the same thing right now (after 7 years it's all hitting me at once) and I know it's scary and you feel small and vunerable but you can do it. *hugs*
my PM box is always pen if you need to talk.

linder surprise · 13-02-2009, 12:45 AM

it really sounds like you know the answer yourself already.
yes, it's definitely a good idea to let out your emotions & feelings. it is never a good idea to keep it all inside.
in regards to feeling small & vulnerable, that is completely normal. and i don't think there is much you/anyone can do to change that but that is only in the short term. it is difficult to tell somebody something which is a, so personal & b, a situation in which you were powerless. in the long run, it will be better for your mental health to try and deal with this and it will be painful but it will be worth it.
good luck.

pixiedust · 13-02-2009, 07:44 PM

I'm trying to start writing stuff down. I'll see whether I can let anything out.

Ben09 · 16-02-2009, 12:54 PM

I think it is perfectly healthy for u to bring up the past its clearly still affecting you in some way, so you should get it out of your system.

Popple · 21-02-2009, 04:14 PM

I know its really hard but it has to come up sooner or later and no matter how much you bury things they have a way of affecting you and so even though its hard you need to work through it so that you can move on with your life.
Well done for talking and starting to write stuff out its really good =)
Take care of yourself love
xx