talk quicker...?

[Spoons]

so i cant see the women i see to talk about s.abuse much as her schedules busy, i have seen her 4 times and i have 3 less.

ive been trying to talk about things that have damaged me andi havent been able to talk about for years.

she told me to talk quicker.

am i the only one that thinks that is not right?

its sensitive stuff that has completley ****ed me up and now im expected to reel it off in three hours stuff that ive never mnaged to say in years.

[Left.]

you're not alone!
you can't 'talk quicker' about issues that are so emotional and personal, thats really not right!
i mean, if she's really busy, theres nothing that can be done. but, what she could be doing is maybe allocating another time when she has more time as opposed to rushing you.
*cuddles*

xxx

[linder surprise]

ugh, she sounds completely irresponsible for saying that.
i mean it's difficult enough talking about it full stop let alone with restrictions/rules/pressure around it.
i dont know how it works but why have you only got 3 left? can't you book more? i guess she just doesn't want the three sessions to be up & for you two not to have been able to finish the discussion properly but still, she could have at the very least been a little more tactful about it.

[Spoons]

well i only started seeing her this year, and its my final year at uni so i finish here in julyish

ive had four now i have three left, which works out at one every 2 weeks.

i know shes busy, but i just feel so much presure and that she is going to be expecting so much of me, for me to tell her all this stuff that has happened in three sessions. thats not even enough just for me to talk about what happened let alone her having input.

[lydia.]

heya,

i know it can be near impossible to talk about stuff that you haven't spend years not talking about. these things take time & a lot of patience. even today, for me, there are words i can't say, even to my closest friends. it's important that you can trust who you are telling, and that you feel comfortable, not rushed, in telling them.

could you try talking to her about how her saying that made you feel?

*squishes*

[Iclemyer]

That is so out of order... I left a counsellor years ago for telling me something similar now i have my therapist and wehen i started with him i had to write stuff down all the time and it took me about a month to actually utter the basic words of what was wrong with me. its wrong to put pressure on your like they did it has completely the wrong effect on you and is not good for the recovery process.
PM box is open if you need anything
Sending love and support
Dianne
xx