I could use some advice/support.

snowy_owl · 07-02-2009, 10:59 AM

I guess this is a pretty lame little thing to be worried about but I'm hoping I can get some advice/support from those of you who may have dealt with similar issues.

Well, I am going to have to drop a class at University. I am not a very good student (~2.9 GPA) but I did used to be and I still have my pride. I've never had to drop a class before, nor have I ever failed one (though I've come close a few times) and dropping it seems like a failure even though it technically isn't.

The reason I have to drop it, even though it is a super easy 100-level course, is because I've been unable to meet the professor's guidelines on coming to class and doing the work. They're not unreasonable, especially for a class that only meets once a week... we're allowed one absence, but no late work will be accepted and any missing assignments will result in automatic failure. And we can't ask him, because he says in the syllabus there are no exceptions whatsoever.

Last week I could not get out of bed because I was up all night bawling and rocking and basically having a really bad mental health day. And I missed an assignment, though only a small one, but it's still an automatic fail nonetheless. Well I cannot afford to get an F, and I frankly don't see the point in attending another 8 weeks worth of class if I'm guaranteed to fail on week 3.

So I know this is long, but do you think I am a bad person for doing this? Because I feel really crappy for doing this, like I am being lazy and bad and I should have had the strength to go to class last week.

Also another thing if you don't mind me asking. When I woke up yesterday morning, I found that I had a big splotchy burn on the outside of my right wrist. It wasn't a bad one, there are no blisters, but it's still pink about 20 hours later. What scares me is that I have no idea how I could have gotten burned... my bed is right next to the heating register, but it doesn't get that hot, and the burn isn't in that shape. And I am certain that I don't sleep walk or sleep injure, and I don't use any sort of drugs or alcohol that would impair my memory of such an event.

So has that ever happened to you? Where you have gotten injured and you have absolutely no idea how it happened to you?

Kija · 07-02-2009, 04:38 PM

hi, i dont think that dropping a class is a failure at all. you have to do what is good for you, and if that means lessening your workload a bit, then that is entirely reasonable and exceptable, and i think quite a brave thing to do!
as for the burn you cant remember, i've self injured in my sleep, scratched myself really badly. and i have self injured and not remembered it but thats been down to drink/drugs.
sorry i'm not a much help.
hugs
xxx

blondiebear · 07-02-2009, 06:50 PM

There is nothing wrong with dropping a course so you can take care of yourself, and so you can do better in the rest of the classes. I've done that too.

dark_light · 07-02-2009, 08:55 PM

Dropping the class isn't a failure if its going to help you manage better, and if you are going to fail anyway because of the missed assignment there doesn't seem a lot of point carrying on going to it.

I can relate to the burn issue - i have woken up before with cuts that i didn't remember doing. This was a while ago, and i was drinking quite a bit at the time so it might be down to that. But i had absolutely no memory of harming, it was scary.