If its not too much to ask I could really do with some hugs as my uncle passed away yesterday. I am not really sure how I feel, I think it hasn't hit me properly yet. Apparently I was very close to him when I younger except I don't remember him all that well but then I don't remember my childhood much at all, apparently that is trauma related from when I was younger. Althrough I don't remember much of him, I still feel this closeness..I dunno its hard to describe. I feel sooo incredibly guilty and upset I don't remember this much tho, I should be able to tho. So yeah some hugs please??
"Recovery is something that you have to work
on every single day and it's
something that doesn't
get a day off."
*major hugs* Know that I'm always here to listen/talk/give hugs etc, just the time differences suck. Love you hunni & put yourself first, greif is such a harsh thing to deal with. *cuddles again*
*hugs and cuddles* I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't feel guilty, it's not your fault he died or that you can't remember. Sorry I have no words of comfort for you *hugs* xxx
Sometimes the way in life seems cloudy...But remember, after the storm comes clear skies
*Gives you a big cuddle* Im really sorry for your loss. Please dont hesitate to get in touch if you need anything sweety. Im here for you, we all are. Im thinking of you.
"Because you don't notice the light without a bit of shadow. Everything has both dark and light. You have to play with it until you get it exactly right."
Of course you can have some hugs, its very sad when someones dies. I think most people feel some guilt when someone dies, we always think we should have made more effort. Thats exactly how I felt when I lost a few people.
Allow yourself time to grieve, even if you don't remember him much, its good that you felt some closeness, so its understandable you would be upset.
I am sure he wouldn't want you to be upset, I would like to be a fond memory to people when I snuff it
Thank-you your words mean alot right now. We don't even have a date for the funeral yet as it is still in the coroners hands as they don't know how he died, I really hope he didn't suffer. I couldn't bear it if he did. I feel so sad yet I can't cry, what is wrong with me?? Am I really that heartless
"Recovery is something that you have to work
on every single day and it's
something that doesn't
get a day off."
You aren't heartless hun, people deal with things differently. When my grandma died I cried for all of 5 mins when I was in shock and that was it. I loved her so much and that didn't change because I wasn't weeping and wailing. In fact, I can imagine she would have been mad if she knew I was spending my time crying, I think that was part of it.
*hugs*
"Everything is possible through Christ, who gives me strength". Phillipians 4:13
