letting people in

[misfitscot1980]

Hi I was just wondering if anyone else is afraid of meeting new people and worrying about weather or not you have told them to much about yourself after having only known them for a few hours because I met someone i like but told them i harm right away was that wrong to have given that info about myself right away anyone's thoughts or opinions I would love to hear thanks

Scott

[one_step_closer]

I feel like that a lot of the time, i'm either telling people things that I don't really want them to know or i'm telling them nothing at all. Do you have someone that you discuss your worries and problems with regularly? Sometimes if you keep it all inside you might find yourself confiding in any person who listens because you want to get it out. How did you feel about telling this person that you self harm? How did they react? Take care and please get in touch any time.

[airwolf282]

That's a tricky one Scott. I know from past experiences I have had girlfriends who reacted in negative ways when they learnt about my mental health issues. Two of them didn't really know how to deal with it and one saw my lack of self esteem and used it to hurt me deliberately which almost ended my life. I always tried to hide the fact I was taking medications and so forth.

My wife and I have been together for over six years and she found out about my illness about a month after we got together. I found that she was very supportive because she had been through depression in the past. It's not surprising though, they say 20% of all people will have some sort of mental health issue in their lifetime and my wife was one of the seven girlfriends I ever had who had also been through it. Yeah so the best bet is to keep the guards up until you know how caring and compassionate that particular person is.

My advise would be to get to know them and what sort of people they are so you won't risk being upset by a negative reaction. The same goes for friends as for dating......and do you really want to know people who are going to look down at you because of an illness that's totally beyond your control? I know society general has a **** attitude towards MI so every day is a struggle.

Hope this helps

[misfitscot1980]

thanks for the advice it helps me to understand somewhat and i will take it in and try and figure out what people to tell about this illness i have one step at a time i don't want people to look down on me for it the person i told understands and has been supportive but i think she is afraid of me really hurting myself to the point that i might have to go into a psyche ward some where and that kinda bothers me after telling her i felt ashamed of my self and em barest about it

[1ofmany]

I have problems getting close to anyone and have only told a couple of my friends. I wish I could open up more but I am quite cowardly.

I would say not tell someone imediatly but wait and see if they can take it...does that make sense?

Its probley best not to listen to me though! I need to take my own advice before i give it out.