not to sure where thsi goes but i need help now please

[flinchybird]

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tomorow there is a viewing for my closer friend who i considered my big sis. she commited sucide on tuesday moring. i don;t know if i should go ir not. or if i wnat to . any help?

[Snow White.]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. This viewing, is it like a funeral?

You might want to ask yourself some questions - such as will you feel closure if you go? Will it be too emotional? Have you got enough support to get you through it before, during, and after?

Maybe you should think about both options - going or not, and see which one makes you "feel" better inside?

It's okay darling - we're here to support you. You'll be alright, we're all here to help you through, I know how hard it is but you can make it through this.

Best Wishes
Aimee xo

[Paperdreams.]

I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, that must have been hard for you. How do you think you'd feel if you went - do you think it would help you to say goodbye? Keep talking, you're not alone. xo

[Jasmine222222]

I'm sorry about your friend. I agree with everyone else, it's all about the answers to the questions you need to be asking yourself.

Personally.... I cannot cope with funerals, viewings, and I hate the whole idea of them in general. Some people perfer to go to them for closure, but some just can't do it, and it's perfectly ok if you fall into the second category.

As someone who has skipped a fair few funerals.... I just take some time out of my day to think about them, what they mean to to me, and I try and remember the things that made me laugh about them. Maybe go sit by yoursel for with a friend somewhere that reminds you of the person you lost. Try and make a bit of mental peace. I find, anyway, that this helps me far more than an elaborate ceremony.

In addition... again, my personal ideas on veiwings...why would you want to remember your loved one that way? My cousin died when he was barely twenty, and he was such a good looking kid... but when I try to think of him now, I see him as he was lying in that casket. He didn't look like my cousin at all.

Just remember, its all a personal choice and it's what you can handle, what will make you feel some kind of closure. It's entirely up to you, and don't feel guilty or sad if you decide not to go.

[Superficial]

This is really up to you... do you really want to see your friend passed away?
Or would you prefer to remember her how she was. The good times and how she smiled, How her hair looked, How her eyes were...

The funeral would be good to go to because you can celebrate their life and sing.. And basically say good bye.

When somebody passes away into the next world their soul goes with them, They never look the same when you go to their viewing.. Like i said this is purely up to you.
Just remember if you view her you might not like it.

All the best.

[howlie,]

Im sorry to here this.
But its all about personal preference.
I had a friend pass away last year through a blood clot, she was par tof our school choir. SOme of us went to the funeral, to say good bye, others couldnt do it, Its a personal choice.
Sorry i cant be of more help, but im happy to listen, sometimes whenyouve lost someone it helps to talk.
Hugs
mishax