yesterday in work one of my colleagues was asked if she knew anything about a mistake that had been made and she went ballistic! long story short she spent the entire afternoon going on about how someone of 'her level of intelligence' would not make such a silly mistake and how we are all stupid for allowing such a mistake to happen at all and i am so fed up of her thinking and acting like she is above the rest of us because she has been in university for 8 years. she actually uses those words herself! a few weeks ago she phoned her therapist and the way she spoke to the receptionist was just unreal, she called her a stupid little girl, uneducated and pathetic because she was a receptionist!! SHE is a receptionist in our work! she does it part time to help fund uni but clearly she is above us. she doesnt seem to realise that i have an IQ of 175 (or did have before i got ill at least) and that i would have been a surgeon by now if i hadnt gotten so ill so young and messed up my chances. She doesnt realise that our other colleague would have gone to uni but instead is now a fantastic mum to a beautiful little girl. University does not make intelligence. She is educated yes. Very educated. Intelligent? No, not if she can treat other human beings as lesser beings. Im sorry for the rant but i am so angry with her and my SI is linked to anger. i find it very difficult to express my anger in any other way and i just need to get this out before i cut or go to work and punch her. oh my god i am so angry i have given myself a headache. i was literally shaking with rage in work yesterday and im worried about going in today
wow! she had no right to treat others like that. Don't apologizing for posting, I hope it helps reduce your anger some. Do you have a bit of time before you have to go into work? Can you avoid her at work?
Take care!
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i feel a bit better for the rant thanx, i have to leave in about an hour so hopefully ill be less stressed by then but i cant really avoid her, we work in a small surgery and even if she isnt there her actions affect everything else. its so frustrating.
that sounds frustrating! Would you be able to talk to an HR person or your boss or even her about how she's affecting the workplace environment in a negative way? maybe [hopefully?!] she doesn't realize what she's doing?
Remember there's no such thing as a small act of kindness.
Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. ~ Scott Adams
the manager wont do anything as they have a massive rift between them as it is! the woman in question is from Iran and has always been on the defensive against being treated differently and is always accusing the manager of favouritism and bias against her and such so now the manager tiptoes around her afraid that anything she says to her is going to cause offense! the manager is the worst ive ever met! she cannot do her job and has basically allowed this whole situation to escalate to this level in the first place. The only thing i could do is go above the manager straight to the Gp Partner and i really dont want to do that as he has enough of the woman in question whinging to him about the manager all the time! the whole situation is pathetic, it is the worst run practice ive ever seen but the hours are perfect for me at this point in time, and the other members of staff are all lovely. my gf gets so angry at me for staying there when it stresses me out so much but the truth is i couldnt handle looking for and interviewing for a job right now and we cant afford for me to be unemployed either!
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What this woman has said is most definitely out of order. I would be angry as well.
Can I ask, have you ever tried to use kickboxing as a way of managing your anger? Or anything else physical? I sometimes find that it really helps because when I get really pissed off with something I know that I have, at least once a week, the chance to go along and beat the hell outta some pads and it helps release the pressure a bit.
Have you considered complaining about this woman. I'm not entirely sure if you do have grounds to make a formal complaint but maybe if you printed out what you wrote (obv. leaving out the s/i if you don't want that brought up at work) and took that to either you manager, or above him or above the other one.
I really hope the situation resolves itself, and you manage to find some peace.
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i agree with the rest it dont matter were any one comes from it dont giev that person the right to treat another human being that way there is such thing as human rights and if she carries in that way she willo lose everything im sorry you have to go through this its not nice.
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that is truly unreal. sorry that you have to work with such a b*tch! i cant stand people like that.
i think kickboxing or similar things are a good idea to help release anger, tho i knew someone who used to have a load of broken/chipped glasses plates etc that he would have normally thrown away, but kept them in the garden and would go out and throw them and smash them to help his anger! cheaper then going to a class! neighbours might have thought he was a bit weird but it seemed to work.
i hope that somehow the situation with that piece of work of a woman gets better soon.
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She sounds like a complete **shole to be honest. You have every right to be annoyed. What do your co-workers think about the situation? I hope you managed to take care and stay safe *hugs if they will help*
Im glad you dont think i have been overreacting :) its gotten crazy in the last couple of days, i had a rant at the manager on wednesday and she agreed with everything i said but then again she is a compulsive liar (we do actually know this as fact)! ive not seen the colleague in questioin since as i have been off work with migraines (stress related perhaps?!). i will see her on tuesday and she had better not speak to me because i am still furious with her. Since all this has happened we are having amended contracts to accommodate this womans demands, we are not allowed to swap shifts amongst ourselves because this woman caused a problem everytime we did so previously, it is ridiculous. the manager is completely incompetent and is a tribunal waiting to happen! im dreading seeing the colleague though, i am having dreams where i am fighting wih her physically and she just laughs at me, i wake up angrier than when i went to sleep!
we are supposed to be having a night out around payday as we didnt have a xmas night out but i am dreading it! once everyone has a drink there will be murder! the assistant manager is at the end of her tether with the whole thing now but has to tread carefully because if the manager goes down she will automatically take the A-M with her snd she is the only competent person in the place!
it is soooo frustrating! as for the kickboxing side of it, its not something i have considered as at the moment it is taking all of my energy to get to work, i think i am running on the adrenaline of anger right now. i can barely do my housework never mind physical exercise!! i do need to do something to channel my anger though because it physical hurts me when it takes hold and thats when i have to release it. so far i only have a negative release xxx
