Chelsea (Queen Crabbit) is my friend. Shes close. As she would say shes like family. She's been so kind to me. Shes one of the loveliest people you could meet.
Shes also ill. Recent Diagnoses of Bi-Polar and PTSD. She spends half the week in pain from her car crash, 3-4 migraines so she cant sleep and the other half having nightmares of being raped so again she cant sleep. She has no energy. She is trying to get a job and live a life but shes struggling and its killing her.
She has asked her parents for help. It seems they are just shouting at her aqnd telling her that people get ups and downs all the time. They dont believe this illness. I dont think she has the skills to tell them. Shes too scared of her dad.
Im too ill to help. I have no more words for her. My anxiety prevents me driving down and telling them straight.
So im asking/begging can someone please help her? Can someone offer advice on any service that can speak to her parents and tell them the facts about this illness. Can soemone help in some way to make them see she is seriously ill and not just lazy.
Im scared she is going to get worse. She NEVER tells anyone exactly how bad it is.
I cant handle the burden right now. Im barely surviving myself.
I know im selfish. But please please please cna someone help her.
I can't help I wish I could. I hate that Chels is feeling so bad. I hate that her parents are so awful...
Matthew, we love you.
Chels, we love you sweetie, we care... and we ave cuddles and such *massive hugs*. Sorry I am not of more use
I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
~ Marilyn Monroe
I wish I could do more, but all I can suggest is talking to Mind, because I know they do an advocate service and maybe they could talk to her parents...
I would love to go and talk to them and explain stuff...unfortunatly i dont know the ins and outs of the problem and have no idea where i would be going.
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I can't hug people in real life and online it makes me feel like a lier.
*Hugs to Matt and Chels* I will see if I can find out any resources on the web that you can provide to your parents....
Until then, I offer my ear to listen and as many hugs as you both want.
Remember there's no such thing as a small act of kindness.
Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. ~ Scott Adams
I found some websites which offer support or information for families of those with bi-polar disease and have listed them below with a quick description - perhaps you can print some off Chels to give to your parents to help with their understanding.... [Note: I am still trying to remember all the rules, etc, so if I am doing something wrong by posting these, please let me know]:
2.) This is a pdf document entitled "Treatment of Bipolar Disorder: A guide for patients and families" it looks to be from a reputable source as well. http://www.psychguides.com/Bipolar_2000_Guide.pdf
3.) From the website "Here to Help" there is a page on Bipolar Disorder and effects on family... it also has a link to the "family toolkit" which states "When a family member suffers from a mental illness, one of the most important things to do is to take the time to learn about the disorder. By educating yourself as much as you can about the mental or substance use disorder, you can take an active role in your family member’s recovery. The Family Toolkit was designed to assist families in caring for a family member with a mental illness by providing information and practical resources."
4.) From the website: HealthyPlace.com a Bipolar Community part of an article on Learning to Cope with Bipolar Disorder contains the section "What can families and friends do to help?"
Please let me know if this helps you at all, or if you want me to look for more resources... I am going to look up some on ptsd; however if you want me to stop let me know too... I don't want to be a pain, I just want to help and this is one of the ways I know how..
Take care!! (*Hugs if you want them!!*)
Remember there's no such thing as a small act of kindness.
Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. ~ Scott Adams
I found some sites on PTSD and have listed them below... Please note that these all could potentially be triggering as they talk about trauma and some have examples of types of trauma... again I think they are all from reputable sites... and will give explanations below.
1.) This is from the Website US Dept. of Veteran Affairs - National Centre for PTSD factsheet entitled PTSD and the Family
2.) (not as sure as the reputableness of this one, but think it is reputable) from the VA National Center for PTSD; entitled PTSD and the Family - a National Center Fact Sheet
3.) From Help Guide.org **Note this has at least one example; so may be triggering** Article called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Symptoms, treatments, and self-help -- has a part on PTSD and the family as well as various links. http://helpguide.org/mental/post_tra...reatment. htm
4.) From WebMD.com an article called PTSD and Your Family - an Overview
Matt, I know you feel like you can't help her right now, but I'm sure even knowing you care as much as you do helps in some way.
Chelsea, I'm sorry things are so tough, and wish there was some magic bullet to solve your problems. With regards to your family, I don't know what you can do to get through to them that it is a real illness. Would showing them the steven fry documentary help at all? Like as in Steven Fry is a positive role model who has bipolar, so you can have it and not be lazy, just be ill. Keep fighting, you will get through this, you're a strong person and have coped with so mch already, I believe in you.
xxx
Like I have always thought was right....
Write a letter, print off information.
Leave it where they will find it and then leave.
Give them time to read it and react without you being there.
It is just about the only way,if they don't get it from that seems like they are in denial and will never get it.
That is when you willjust about have to disown the thought of them helping and turn to friends or other family members.
Good luck,my thoughts are with you
chelsea i'm sorry things are so so terrible right now. please dont try and do this on your own, lean on us/me/friends/family/councillory type people. i know it must be hard accepting this illness and the new meds and everything but think of this as the beginning of recovery, not the end of normalness (if that makes sense).
i think you are an amazing woman and you deserve so much good stuff.
my PM box is always open and i'm only a text away too (did you get my text a little while ago?)
Have you thought about taking one of your parents to your next psych app?
I know that I take my mum and it really helps her to try and understand.
Other than that, just what everyone else has suggested, with printing off info, or perhaps finding a film about it and watching it together.
i have no words right now.
i just want to send my love to you both.
you are both so very important to me though you probably dont know it.
i love you guys.
xxxxxxx
A little Consideration, a little Thought for Others, makes all the difference.
Sends hugs to matt and chelsea thinking about you both.
i am only a pm away if any of the two of you want to talk.
“Never lose faith in yourself,
and never lose hope;
remember, even when this world throws its worst and then turns its back,
there is still always hope.”
are there any bipolar drop in groups for those affected by bipolar including friends and family near her? i'm trying to find one in my area to send my boyfriend to! i went to one before i moved and it was helpfull for me, finding new information and understanding, so would think it would be usefull for her parents?
i wish i had the courage to talk to them, because people who think this illness is nothing really annoy and upset me, because **** it its real.
hugs to both of you. sorry i cant be of more help.
I wish I could. I hate that Chels is feeling so bad. I hate that her parents are so awful...
