Hi there. I'm about to join the police, something I've always wanted to do. I have some things I still need to iron out. I'm 18 and from the UK. I don't have a mental problem or issue, it's more of inexperience in the way to deal with certain things.
Here are the things I tend to become nervous/anxious and all the rest of it:
When surrounded by strangers e.g busy street, on a bus, now this is something I had no problems with at all. I used to be shy, but I'm no longer. I can deal with this no problem when I'm with a friend or friends, but when I'm on my own I tend to fall into like a trance and just get nervous and anxious, why is this? I don't know how to relax myself adequately on my own, how can I just relax and go about these situations without any worry? I don't intend any of the thoughts I some times have, it's like my mind begins to think for itself and I go along with that making me anxious.
I have no problems speaking at all. I have practiced talking in privacy, but when I'm again with strangers I sometimes get really nervous, sometimes shake and just can't speak normally, I can't get some words out or I mix all my words up, it's like I'm sptting out automated responses my mind quickly thinks of not giving me the chance to clam down and think about what to say. I also sometimes get a red face etc, I hate it! I don't mean it at all it just happens. How can I sort all this? How can I gain assertiveness? I allow things to get to me which affects my speech, how can I control this? I need to be more assertive.
Do these all come down to confidence? I am quite a confident person. Or are these all about controlling myself? I think I need to learn how to control myself better as I seem to allow myself to control me.
Please do advise! I wish to develop these people skills asap.
Thanks.
