advice please!

[guiltyinnocence]

basically i completely ****ed up my a-levels, im not being pessimistic i did **** them up
i ended up walking out of my english half way through and just breaking down in tears,
anyway, i ended up talking to my head of 6th form and he suggested thinking about special consideration cus of all the **** going on in my head and the stuff at home. but i dont really know cus to me iv ****ed up and i think special consideration is just me trying 2 find an excuse for ****ing up. wot do u guys think?
also, my teacher said he would see me after my last exam and have a chat to me, but he wasnt there after my exam and it messed with my head a bit (i know im being stupid but i cant help it) cus i thought he cared and it made me question him caring...anyway, i wanted to ask wot people think about me going to talk to him tomorrow about how iv ****ed up my exams and possible retakes and considering special consideration? or is it just too late now and pointless? or maybe i would just be wasting his time cus he actually really dusnt care? argh, i dunno, wot do you think?

[Beatrix]

It certainly wouldn't hurt to consider those options. Talk to your teacher and look at all of your options; there may be a few different things you can do to get your schooling back on track and brings grades up.

I know it feels like a big, awful catastrophe right now; there is so much emphasis put on good grades and getting into the right schools, and it puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on students. I have been there - my first year of university was a wash out; it was literally eight months and close to $10,000 for nothing. And yet, the world is still turning, and four years later, here I am. I guess that's my way of trying to tell you that while things are rough right now, tomorrow will still come and life will go on; it's not quite the disaster it feels like right now. Please try to remember that as hard as things are at the moment, they can and will get better, and that there is always another option and a way to sort these things out.

Stay positive, be well and good luck. ^_^

[Too Shy]

I agree with Beatrix - it wouldn't hurt at all to consider asking for special consideration. It doesn't sound at all like it would be trying to find an excuse - if you've got a lot of extra pressure on you, like problems at home, or in your head, then that puts you at a disadvantage - special consideration just means you're not put at such a disadvantage, so it's a good thing.

It's understandable that you were upset if your teacher wasn't there when he said he would be - but it's more than likely that he does care, because if he didn't care, he wouldn't have said he'd see you in the first place - he may have just got called away somewhere else or something. Going to see him sounds like it would be a good idea - he'd definitely be able to advise you about retakes and considering special consideration, so if he could reassure you about that, it would be great.

And like Beatrix said, things can and will get better - there's always options, such as retakes, special consideration, and it's really not the end of the world if you don't do as well as you want to, even though the pressure is incredibly difficult right now.

Hope you're ok xx