I'm sorry for posting but I've tried keeping this to myself and if I don't try to ask for support now, tomorrow will be to late.
3 weeks ago I was raped and now I think I might be pregnant. No-one knows about this e.g. family, police etc... and I have no idea what to do anymore!
I thought I was coping with things alright then this happened and everything else has gone down the drain. Waking up in the morning is hell and all i can think about all day long is whether there is a child growing in me or not.
I don't know if I can face playing the waiting game to find out if Im pregnant or not...
Sorry
"Imagination Is More Important Than Knowledge. Knowledge is Limited. Imagination Encircles The World". A. Einstein
Well done for posting. I know you were scared about it so that's a big acheivement and you should be proud of yourself.
Do you think you can go to your doctor? Not only can they check whether you're pregnant or not and offer you options but they'll be able to offer you some support too. It's a very scary step to take but you need some support to be able to deal with this.
*lots of safe hugs*
Sometimes the way in life seems cloudy...But remember, after the storm comes clear skies
For a start I hate them, they never supported me when I needed them and I have lost all trust in 'professionals'.
Providing I get through the next week I might do a home pregnancy test.
AHHHH!!!! **** **** **** ****!!!! Im so scared!
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"Imagination Is More Important Than Knowledge. Knowledge is Limited. Imagination Encircles The World". A. Einstein
Well you could take a pregnency test now to make sure. If you do you could keep the child, and support it, or you could give it up for adoption. I beg you not to have an abortion. That's the worst you could do. I hope I have been of help to you.
Shows how much I know...
I have no strength to find out.
What if I am?! I can't have a child...
This is all my stupid fault in the first place and I deserved it yeah,
but I can't have a child. I can't live with myself anymore...
"Imagination Is More Important Than Knowledge. Knowledge is Limited. Imagination Encircles The World". A. Einstein
you ca. If you have a child it's a beautiful thing happening through rape or loving sex. If you can't support a child you could give it up for adoption, but if you don't want to go through with a test yo ucould go to a "professional" to see if you got an STD so you won't have to live with pain down there without knowing it's cause.
Sweetheart if you can't keep the child you can just abort or give it up for adoption. It's not easy but you can get through it. After all, right now you're not even sure that you are pregnant. Just take a home test, and take another one after to see if it matches. Then if it sas positive you should go to the dr ok? There should be a women's clinic somewhere if you look and they can help you.
sweetie, i know its hard, and i know your scared. your words are puntcured with it. we're all here for you. you should go to the doctors though. And you shoudl think about tellign a trusted family member. I know it will be hard, but that's my bes advice for now. noone should have to deal with things alone, espiaclly a sitation with this much gravity.
if you are pregnant****
i knwo you may want to abort, but please don't like your earlier post said "...a child growing inside me" i know you aren't a bad person, and aborition is killing that child. i recently went to a woman's conference over the summer and they ahd a seminar on rape. many women actually feel that having the child whether they keep it or not is actually a healing process. Alot of women also regret abortion, one of my friends included. they say it adds to the pain and stress of thier already hectic lives. When a woman has a baby who is the by product of rape, they feel when they baby leaves thier body, some of thier pain does too. so i beg you for your baby's sake, do not abort if you are even pregenant.
if you tell a close family memebr sweetheart, noones gonna be angrey at you. you've done nothin wrong.
Hang on a minute, I really don't think it is at all appropriate to be putting across anti-abortion views in this thread at all. The OP needs to do what's best for her without having other's try and sway her decision and going on about killing babies is not helpful, in fact I'm appalled you can be so insensitive.
OP, I urge you to take a test. Knowing is better than not knowing. Then if you are pregnant, you can make a decision from there on what is best for you, be that abortion, adoption or keeping the baby, don't let anyone guilt trip you into making any particular decision. I know it's really hard right now and you feel like you can't take the pain, but it does ease with time. I think you need to tell someone, be that a close friend or a family member, that way you at least have some support in real life. Contacting your local rape crisis would also be a good thing to do as they can provide counselling to help you deal with what happened. Take care of yourself and feel free to PM me if you need.
I can't top the above advice because I agree with them. Please take a pregnancy test, or see your doctor. Once you know, you'll have a clearer idea of what it is you need to decide between and what support you can use.
Take care of yourself, and let us know what happens,
Sarah x
At the very least, now you know for sure. It's a bit of a relief, I'd imagine, that you aren't.
But it is different for everyone.
Please, if there is a rape crisis line in your area, you should see about calling it. They can help match you up with a therapist and see if they can't help you past this. Rape is not fair and it's really hard to get past. They say that therapy of some type is really helpful and I've found it helpful. You can reclaim your life.
Don't let anyone force you into doing anything though.
And guys, we're here to support people going through things, not to tell them what to do or to make them feel like they HAVE to do something. I understand this may be your point of view, but please, lets leave all our options on the table. Rape is hard enough to deal with and a pregnancy by rape is even harder. Please, let's be sensitive to others.
I'm glad you took a test and found out, at least you no longer have that to worry about. I agree with Amaryllis, counselling would be very helpful. You deserve help to deal with this and get on with the rest of your life. How are you feeling now?
Take care
xxx
I'm not too good at the moment. Would have come online yesterday but I didn't have the energy to get out of bed or do anything.
I thank you all for the support you have given, but I don't think I can contact others... Like, 'professionals'.
Im a mess.
"Imagination Is More Important Than Knowledge. Knowledge is Limited. Imagination Encircles The World". A. Einstein
