I'm thinking about finally going to see a counselor. What can I expect? I'm ok with talking but how would I start talking? I'm a little scared and I guess it's because I'm not so good at talking to people about how I feel. When someone asks me how I'm doing I usually lie and say I'm fine. So anything anyone can help me would be great.
I find some of what you teach suspect
Because I'm used to relying on intellect
But I try to open up to what I don't know
Because reason says I should have died
Three years ago...
- Rent
Well, when I first started therapy, I thought it was gonna be SO awkward. I hate talking, and I really didn't know how to like, start talking?
But it's totally fine. They start of by asking loads of questions, but they don't make you say anything you don't want to. Most of my conversations stemmed from questions my therapist asked me.
And they'll usually ask you if there's anything you specifically want to talk about. So there's nothing missed out.
That's what I got from my experience anyway.
I hope it goes well for you.
Natasha x
But if i still believe you love me, maybe i'll survive.
So i tell myself you're coming home, like you've done a million times.
good luck for counselling - you will be fine. s/he will promt you for information that they would like to know. you just answer their questions in as much detail and honesty as you can
Netti - these are brave thoughts to be having, as considering counselling can be scary.
There are many different typse of counsellors - trained in different approaches to therapy. So, be aware that it could take a little while to find the right counsellor for you. However, I have also known *many* people to find the right counsellor first time.
You say your auto response to people when they ask about your feelings, is that you are fine. They are goign to know that things are OK, because you're there, with them. They don't expect you to pour your heart out first time that you meet - but they will encourage you to talk, ask you questions and give you time. Have you considered other ways in which you could convey your feelings?
Let us know what you decide and how things go, if you like?
Chloe x
p.s there are also some articles on the main site that might help. This one [link] talks about counselling.
We don't get given patience but the opportunity to be patient.
Courage isn't handed to us, but we are given opportunities to be courageous.
be thinking about you well done and good luck with the councilling. just take it as it comes. normally the councillor asks the questions and they can how you are and what you want to talk about. let us no how you get on. xxx
“Never lose faith in yourself,
and never lose hope;
remember, even when this world throws its worst and then turns its back,
there is still always hope.”
So, I just called to make an appointment and got their answering machine. Not very encouraging.
I find some of what you teach suspect
Because I'm used to relying on intellect
But I try to open up to what I don't know
Because reason says I should have died
Three years ago...
- Rent
sometimes you just have to leave a message or them to get back to you. when i call mine i have to do that as she is either in a session with someone or gone to visit a patient. dont let it put you off
“Never lose faith in yourself,
and never lose hope;
remember, even when this world throws its worst and then turns its back,
there is still always hope.”
No, I didn't really know what to say. I'm going to try again in a little bit.
I find some of what you teach suspect
Because I'm used to relying on intellect
But I try to open up to what I don't know
Because reason says I should have died
Three years ago...
- Rent
It could be a really good thing that no-one picked up... because if you were in the middle of a session with your counsellow, you wouldn't want them dashing out to pick up the phone.
Don't give up on it,
Chloe x
We don't get given patience but the opportunity to be patient.
Courage isn't handed to us, but we are given opportunities to be courageous.
Congrats on the big step of even thinking about it.
Amy
To be nobody but yourself in a world that's doing its best to make you somebody else, is to fight the hardest battle you are ever going to fight. Never stop fighting-E. E. Cummings
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Im in the same situation as you, I don't have any advise but I just want you to know you aren't alone. Well done for finding the strength to ask for help.
Good luck x
I called today and left a message. I also took an assessment test for a wellness class and I scored 37 for depression.
I find some of what you teach suspect
Because I'm used to relying on intellect
But I try to open up to what I don't know
Because reason says I should have died
Three years ago...
- Rent
I only took the test cause it was required for one of my classes. It was about all kinds of health issues.
I find some of what you teach suspect
Because I'm used to relying on intellect
But I try to open up to what I don't know
Because reason says I should have died
Three years ago...
- Rent
I just went to my first counseling appointment last week and it was pretty awkward, but the counselor asked most of the questions. If she asked too broad of a question and I didn't know how to answer, I'd just say I didn't know what she wanted me to say and she'd usually rephrase it to something more specific.
Naturally it felt sort of weird telling a stranger all these deeply personal things, but I suppose it'll get easier and less awkward over time.
Hi, i started counseling last yr and i was defiantly scared. I was scared that id saythe wrong thing or if i didn't know what to say. It was hard at the start but eventually got easier. Now im more trustworthy of my counselor and im able to talk to her like i would talk to a good friend. Its ok to feel scared about this. Its a big step and alot to ask of you. But just remember that it will help you now and in the future. If you ever need to talk just said me a message.
take care
littlejxx
I left a message and my number and name and no one called back and each time I call no one answers. I called once a couple months ago and someone answered and now no one answers.
I find some of what you teach suspect
Because I'm used to relying on intellect
But I try to open up to what I don't know
Because reason says I should have died
Three years ago...
- Rent
Just keep trying.
'If at first you don't succeed, try and try again'.
For a psych lesson we had to take a test about realtionships and on the same website there was a test from depression. I took it. A score of 24 was severly depressed, I scored 54 out of 60. It made me laugh a little bit. The evaluation at the end told me to seek medical help. It's kind of a push in that direction for me but not fully. Asking for help is just so hard.
You're one step ahead of me, keep trying, well done.
You're doing the right thing.
Is there maybe a different counselling place you could try if they haven't gotten to you yet? Many of the places I tried were either not for me, or were not taking on new clients. Just keep trying, I know it's scary and I know it's frustrating when it just doesn't seem to work out, but you just need to keep trying.
