High Expectations from a tutor

[silentgirl]

Hi
Is it good or bad for a tutor to have high expectations of a student that he tutors?
I have to get a heap of work done in the next few hours and he has already given me an extension. Im confused because friends have said that this isnt good for me. Im getting tutored in Modern History and English because they are my weakest subjects at the moment. Im embarrassed because in the last four years of school, i havent had a problem with English, but at the moment, i seem to be struggling and i wish i knew why. But i dont. Ive never struggled with english as much as i have been the past month or so, and ive never needed english tution before. My tutor says that i can ask him anything, as many times as i need it to be explained to me, but some aspects are just not "clicking with me" so that i understand them propperly. Im so embarrassed. He is coming to my house to tutor me on Tuesday for the whole day, in English and in Modern History, though he is also helping me put this english assessment task together that i have to finish.

I dont know, i just feel so confused about this whole thing.

Hannah

[_zombie]

it's good to have high expectations, but not too high.
he has a bit too high expectations of you.
he shouldn't give you that much work if your struggling in the subject already.
try talking to him about how much work you have.
because stress makes things worse.

x

[Behind the Smile]

I know how you feel..
take care
x

[Too Shy]

_zombie's right, I think - it's good to have high expectations of a student (I think there's been research which shows that high expectations can actually improve performance), but if he's got too high expectations of you, I don't think that will help.

It's good that he's giving you help, because it sounds like he really believes in your abilities, which is positive. You don't need to be embarrassed about struggling - everyone struggles sometimes, especially when there's a lot of pressure, and there's nothing wrong at all with asking for help if you need it. Like you said, some aspects just haven't 'clicked', and if your tutor can help you to find a way of getting those aspects to 'click', then that's great.

But try not to let your studying take over your life - you need to have fun and relax as well. If you're constantly trying to study something you don't understand, it's more likely that you'll end up becoming frustrated and demotivated. Try having a break from the stuff you don't understand something, and then coming back to it a bit later, maybe?

Take care :) xx