okay..so im 16 and im thinking about going on birth control [the pill]
mainly because im really irresponsible sometimes, its summertime and i do tend to drink alot and lately thats been leading in the wrong direction.
i havent slipped up completely and had un protected sex yet, because ive been really self concious and making sure i watch how much i drink and who im with an whatever else.
i know that's probably the best way to do it, but i tend to get pretty rowdy and out of hand sometimes, i just dont want to wake up the next morning with some random guy, and then find out that im pregnant.
the next issue is my parents. me and my mom arent that close..and this just isnt something to talk to my dad about..even though we are extremely close.
i just cant really see myself going up to my mom and going "mom i wanna go on the pill..im getting drunk a lot lately and things are gettin a little crazy, i dont wanna sleep with some random guy while im drunk, not remember it, and wind up pregnant."
im sure i could pull it off not telling them and keeping it from them..but im not sure if thats the best route either, because i dont want them finding out at a later date and having some huge arguement over it.
and i cant use acne or period cramps as an excuse to go on the pill, i dont have either of those problems..
sorry if none of this makes any sense, any advice would just be greatly appreciated
Remember that birth control pills do not protect against STDs or HIV. It's best if you can avoid having unprotected sex at all, even if you do on on the pill. There's also the morning after pill if it ever comes to that, but since it makes you pretty sick it should only be an emergency back-up plan, and not a planned-on form of birth control.
Maybe could you tell your mom part of the truth? Like if you're sexually active and she knows that, maybe you could tell her that you want it as a back-up in case a condom every breaks? Or you're not sexually active yet, or she doesn't know you are, maybe you could tell her something like some of the parties you go to there's a lot of stuff that goes on, and even though you're being carefull, you want to go on the pill just in case some guy takes advantage of you? Maybe you could tell them that you've started getting bad cramps, even if you haven't, as they have no way to know if that's true. Or you could talk to your doctor about if there are other medical reasons (besides cramps and acne) that you could tell your parents.
The other option is to just hide them well. You don't need your parent's permission to get the pill, and maybe you could put them in a vitamin bottle or something so your parents wouldn't notice if they saw the bottle in your room?
thanks for replying:)
yeah ,i know it doesnt protect against std's or anything, obviously my ideal situation would be with a condom and the pill..to elminate all aspects of something going wrong. i just want to keep myself safe
the vitamin bottle idea is brilliant, thanks so much for that.
im still just really confused as to whether or not to tell either one or both of my parents..
if i do tell them..things could go really wrong and they would lose all trust in me and not trust me to go out with friends anymore..
or i could not tell them and they could somehow find out and then they would automatically assume the worst possible..you know ?
why don't you just say look, i'm 16 now and i think it would be a good idea if i go on the pill just to be on the safe side.
I'm sure they'd much rather you be on the pill then to end up pregnant.
you're 16, your of legal age.
oh and make sure to use a condom too if you're just sleeping with random guys, coz who knows what the hell they've got.
I don't think you need to explain why (like the partying) but if you want to tell your parents I think you should just say, "i want to go on the pill" and if they ask why you could say, "i'm taking responsibility for myself" and if they know your sexually active anyway then surely that will be ok.
At the end of the day your 16 and most 16 year olds have sex. Atleast your showing your taking responsibility for yourself and I'm glad and happy to see you know safe sex and will use a condom, to many young girls/older girls get pregnant and STIs.
Stay Safe and Take Care and good luck!
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I was going to suggest hiding them til i read the other posts.
Well not much more I can add but good luck if get you get it, and try to avoid those situations =]
You're 16 so obviously my advice would be to NOT drink, ever! One because it's illegal and two because you're just ****ing with your brain and setting yourself up to either look like an ass in front of people and be disrespected or being date raped or sexually assaulted. The other thing would be to NOT have unprotected sex, in fact, if you're single and have no boyfriend why have sex at all? You're too young to be living the life of an adult, an irresponsible adult. The best thing you can do is study hard and well so you can have a better future and more options available when you're older. If you do have a boyfriend, now or in the future, then the pill and condoms would do just fine and were your parents to find out you're on the pill you'd just tell them you're protecting yourself 'cuase you and your partner are sexually active, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm sorry if I've offended you, I don't mean to, it's the best advice I can give you.
I can understand why your parents would be concerned if they find you are on the pill because you're still young and if you don't have a boyfriend you shouldn't be sexually active. They'd probably worry with good reason.
You should respect yourself more, if you don't no one ever will. Sleeping with random guys while drunk only makes you look (sorry) easy and makes it hard for guys to respect you as a woman. Please take care of yourself, value yourself. You will gain nothing by getting drunk and being wild with random people, it could bring you a lot of grief...maybe you should look inside yourself to see why you do these self destructive things and how to fix it...for your own good. Good luck, btw...you could hide the pills in a mint case, a vitamin bottle, anywhere you hide money...and as it has been said already, the pill will not protect against std's.
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Where do you live? If you're in the UK you can go to the doctors and get the pill on your own anyway, you don't need parental permission.
My advice is to watch how much you drink, you can have a good time without getting so off your face you forget it the next day. Getting very drunk you can't control yourself and aren't in a state to handle yourself, you put yourself in a very vunerable position.
I'm not condoning going out and getting drunk and having unprotected sex atall...obviously using a condom is always the best decision...along with not being drunk...but **** happens.
Have you thought about the shot instead of the pill?
If you're going out drinking and stuff, you're likely to forget to take the pill everyday which puts you at risk of pregnancy anyway.
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