how can i help a friend who is on drugs? she has been doing drugs for more than 15 years. what can i do to help?
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
I understand that it may hurt you to see them do what they do, but then some people may not always want help and that has to be taken into consideration.
Have you tried talking to them about the reasons why they take these drugs and how they started? How it makes them feel after they take them and if that is a bad experience why do they do that? You can also ask questions such as have they ever tried to stop before, if so, how did that go and would they be willing to try again? That is, if you and they are willing to talk about the situation(s). And as much as you maybe willing to listen, they may not want to talk because the path leading up to the use of drugs could have been a very painful one. Therefore, make sure it is in their own time and their conditions, give them the opportunity to talk when they feel ready because pushing them to talk could damage the friendship or break the trust they have for you.
You may not feel up for all of that so what else you can do is give them some links to support sites and any support systems that are in place within the local area. Letting them know you do care about them and the potential effects that drugs may have on them. Though more than likely they have heard all of the effects before so try not to sound as though you are preaching, as it will simply sound as though you're been judgemental and i am sure you wont be. Just been there for them is very often all you can do.
I hope they get the help they need, PM me anytime.
she doesn't want to see me because she doesn't want me to see her like that. she is really bad and im so worried about her. She has tried many times to stop, but she always starts again. this time she wants to stop, so i lent her(actually to her boyfriend, because i can't see her) about 300 dollars, so that she can buy pills, to get better. but i have heard that people who take drugs can't stop completely and im afraid that she won't be able to get better...
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
If she has been doing drugs for 15 years its likely that she is going to need extensive professional help to get over her addiction. In patient would probably the recommended treatment for her.
For someone who has been doing drugs for that long it's going to be integrated into their daily life, they may not know how to live without using.
Unfortunately, there is probably little you can do directly to help her because she is going to need professional help. However, for someone in recovery, being there for her, and supporting her is one of the most important things you can do to help.
Well it breaks my heart to see you this way,
The beauty in life, where's it gone?
And somebody told me you were doing okay,
Somehow I guess they were wrong.
She has been inpatient many times in the past 3 years. now her doctor wants to put her back in, but she doesn't want to. she wants to get better by herself. her boyfriend is on drugs too and i think he's a bad influence, but i can't tell her, because she may hate me, because she loves him. was it a bad idea to lend her money? i mean what if she uses them on drugs??
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
As Aidey said, been on drugs for so long means she may not know any different and therefore find it difficult for her to see the advantage and or point of going all the way with recovery; she may also be inadvertently be having a negative influence of her boyfriend as you pointed out. Thus, it will be hard for her to recover on her own and professional help is the far better alternative.
You are worrying about if she used the money for drugs and not recovery purposes, but then if she broke the trust you held in her then her problem is far worse than she can see and maybe it would call for a bit more honesty so she sees that she has just used her best friend in that way? If she decides to hate you or not is her choice but would more likely be the addict talking, not your friend. I believe it maybe better if you do tell her how you feel? As you do care and worry for her, you quite clearly sound as though you do and you also sound like an amazing friend to her. Furthermore, that you think it maybe best for her to continue with professional help, because it will be in better surroundings? See how my wording makes a big difference from her boyfriend been a bad influence?
It sounds as though you are getting hurt by this and it is affecting you adversely. Please remember to look after yourself. As much as you may want to help there, there is very little that can be done but been there is the greatest thing you can do for her.
The fact that she has a problem really gets me down and i feel the need to SI after 2 months free...
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
seeing my friend in pain. it breaks my heart. she has been through so much and i want her to be ok. i want to see her and have fun together, but its not possible...
My RYL family:
I-used-to-be-positive is my big sister razorxkissedxwrists is my mommy alyssa.star is my sister phoenixflames_forever is my cousin concreteangel, helpmydeath, xxbeckyxx and queer fringe are my little sisters bob--says--hi is my twin
It is something bad for your friend, how much drug detox which is contained in your body. I think consume drug for 15 years is include in a heavy drug addiction. But there is no word "late" for you friend if he want stop it. You can take him to follow some treatment such as drug counseling or alcohol counseling may it will help your friend.
