Triggering (Abuse) - What to do about being bullied at school?

Ruby16 · 20-10-2008, 12:41 AM

I did post on another general advice forum but this one seems better for my problem.Ok since I was about 12 I knew I liked other girls but I didn't ever say anything, it was easy for me to not be honest with people because I don't fit the stereotype-I'm very girlie and straight acting and I just agreed with my friends when they were talking about cute boys etc, being like this and not being honest about who I am made me miserable though.Recently I got up the courage to tell my parents and we've always been close, they were understanding, supportive and just generally great about everything :) .So a while after I thought I would tell my friends and they said they were ok about it but it quickly got around school and a lot of people call me names and tease me and the people who I thought were my friends join in and say they were only joking afterwards but I can tell they mean it, some people have actually been physically abusive to me and kicked me and spat at me, although this is a very small group.I feel so alone and so unhappy, last week I pretended I didn't feel well for a few days so I didn't have to go in because I felt so upset and worried.

flying_kiwifruit · 20-10-2008, 04:31 AM

You need to tell your parents or a teacher. they have no right to do that to you and it needs to be stoped, but it wont stop unless you tell someone in real life.

troubleshooter · 20-10-2008, 05:04 PM

It's difficult to deal with that when people aren't supportive, and I would tell a teacher, but I might not say that it's because of homophobia, because sometimes teachers won't be supportive either. And anyone who makes fun of you and hits you isn't a real friend. See if you can make other friends who are also gay, or very comfortable around it and accept you as you. *hugs*

koolaid · 20-10-2008, 05:53 PM

*hugs*
People like that are small minded. What year of school are you in? Sometimes it can get easier the further up school you get, as people (supposedly) grow up and mature. People are scared of different. It doesn't make it right, but that small minority of haters will always exsist. I agree you should tell a teacher if you feel comfortable in doing that.
Do your parents know whats going on?

Ruby16 · 20-10-2008, 09:29 PM

Thanks for the advice and hugs everyone

, I really just feel kind of alone because I feel like I don't have friends anymore now.I don't see why people have such a problem with me and some of the things they say make me think about it all day and I end up lying awake in bed at night crying.I haven't told my parents bcause I don't want to worry or upset them.

Chrissyann · 22-10-2008, 09:47 AM

So long as you're happy about who you are, no-one's opinion should count. I understand it's awful to be bullied, but there are plenty of people at your school who aren't as narrow minded who you can still be friends with.

I know it's horrible to be disliked, but it meant for me that the few friends I had at school are still to this day my best friends. It's better to have fewer closer friends, than loads of friends who are quick to judge and hurt you.

Try and ignore what they're saying to you hun, because them picking on you wont change you. The main people in your life accept who you are... your parents and close friends. I think it was very brave of you to tell your parents. Well done.

Try and keep your chin up hun, and remember that this wont go on forever. They'll soon get bored and leave you alone... just try and stay strong. If things get any worse, then maybe consider telling someone about it?

Take care hun
*hugs*
Chrissy
xxx