What should/ could/ am I meant to do?

[emily.disenchanted]

Andy is an angel, you couldnt ask for a kinder sweeter gentler person but he has his moods and I never know what to do. I try and ask what is going on and what is upsetting him and he pushes me away, I don't ask and I am the bad friend for not caring. I know he was ok earlier in the afternoon because I was talking to him on skype but now he is all upset and depressed and against the whole world and seems to think the whole world is against him. I just want to be there and be able to comfort him but I really don't know how, he isn't really a touchy-feely person and he just got pissed at me for *hugs* on msn so I really have no idea. I love him to bits he is such an amazing person and a wonderful friend and I hate seeing him like this......

[charcoal feathers]

Hmm, i'm not really sure
maybe just say look, if you want to talk or whatever then i'm always here, if not that's fine we can just talk about something else. Just let him know you are there for him if he ever needs you because sometimes when people are upset they forget/go into the whole no'one cares about me mode.
sorry, i dont really know what else to suggest

[Anansi]

I can totally relate sweetie, it can be so tough sometimes. You probably don't realise that, even though he doesn't show it, just you being there is making a huge difference.
If he says he wants to be alone, then give him that time - unless you are gravely concerned about him in which case ask him what he wants.
Ask him what he would like you to do, and then what he thinks would help him.
I'm always here if you want to chat :) Emma. x