i just miss him so much....

pea soup · 26-06-2007, 06:34 AM

my best friend was killed in a car crash last month and its taking a toll on me.

i was in the hospital when it happened and wasnt told about it until i got out. by then the funeral was over and i never got to "say my goodbyes"

we were so close for so long. he was young and vibrant and i guess i never thought of him as being dead.

it seems the more time that goes on...the worse i feel.

can anyone help me???
thank you
xx

pea soup · 27-06-2007, 05:02 AM

i just needed a few itty bitty replies....

raistlin · 27-06-2007, 07:04 AM

Sorry you haven't gotten any replies. Is there anyway you can perhaps go to his burial site or where his funeral was had and have your own? Talk about the good times and how much you miss him. That way you are saying your goodbyes. I know how hard it is to deal with a good friend's death. I am sure he wouldn't want you to be feeling this much hurt over his death, celebrate his life. :)

All I'm Living For · 28-06-2007, 03:29 AM

it does keep hurting for a while. usually hurts the most for a few months. it does get better though. i know from experience. just give it time. and dont feel bad when you stop hurting or start moving on. and ditto with what raistlin said.
take care.

soph.

craola · 28-06-2007, 04:12 PM

Im so sorry you've lost your best friend, its so sad when someone so young dies, its not right.
Getting over losing someone is never easy, its even harder though if you didnt get to go to the funeral, they should have let you go to it so you could say goodbye. I really think it would help you if you did something special for him yourself, maybe you could take some flowers to his grave, or you could do something more personal, you could plant a tree for him somewhere you two used to go, so that there will always be a part of him there, or you could do something you used to enjoy together.
I know its hard but saying goodbye really can help you, it doesnt help you to forget him, it will help you to move on, so that you can start remembering the good times you shared together.
It really might help you. Take care hun, im here if you want to talk.
Aimee xx