not sure what to do & lookg for other opinions...*safe*

[Merc]

I have the opportunity to go on eraly retirement. I needed a fw more months of work hours and i finally go t them when i went back to work last year for 6 mos.

But, the problem is, i dont think it will be enough money..it is less than half of what i recieve right now (going by a new frinewho is on i...but i dont know if its a set amou, if it goes by how much you have paid i nto , or what...phonecalls are due...). Bu my leave from work is up in Feb. So im wanting to get things in the works as it all takes forever.

On one hand, i feel like im not deserving of it , that someone else could use it more and that maybe if i tried harder i could return to work.

On the other hand i have many ppl telling me to take it....

I dont really think i can return to work tbh.At leaat not right now, not while im in the midt oinding andgetting a referral to a MH!!!

But....to actually go on it, at my age , will immensly discouraging and feelike my 'life' is over, that i failed etc.... I know of a friend who went thru this and how she felt and...i just dont know.....

Im not looking for anyone to 'solve' this for me or anything, i know its my decision ultimately, but i just wondered if soem of you loverly peeps had soem things i hadnt thought of , as you are looking at it from an objective point of view...

So i would really appreciate soem feedback , if you dont mind (i hate to ask for more; you guys give me so much already!!!! :o) *hugs* ).

thanks
romp

[Casper_Fading]

Honey.... take it. It will be hard, granted. But as you've said you're not able to go back to work. You can't go back to your old job becasue of your hsoulder and now you've got the arthritis to contend with... love take the payments. Is there anything that says you can't go back to work if you've been recieving this???? If thre isn't than take it, get better and then go back to work. *nods*

[Yellow]

i agree.
you may fell worse at first. and im saying this because when i was put on disability, i did feel alot worse. but ive been on it for 4 years now and im 31.
i still have feelings of guilt and such. but there are other things you can do to make yourself feel useful.
and as its been said, you DO have both physical and mental health issues.
and if its been offered, i would take it Romp.
i think it would take alot of stress off of you about worrying if you'll be ready to go back to work and wondering when your leave will run out etc...
thats all ive got but i say take it.
loves.
xxxxx

[BoundNoMore]

7 words (or 6 words and 2 symbols if you wanna get technical )... TAKE IT & RUN!!! & DON'T LOOK BACK!!!!

[Merc]

you have all just re-affirmed my thinking on it. And my hubby's. so i think i will.
Thanks so much for the replies,:)
*hugs you all*!

luv
romp

[Aidee]

If you take it, could you not return to work at another place in the future? I don't really know how canadian retirement works...

[effervescence]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bound by Thoughts

TAKE IT & RUN!!! & DON'T LOOK BACK!!!!

[Tears of Solitude]

Hello Sweetpea

Take the money and run ----> towards me hehehehehe

Love ya

Jade xxx

[fragile as glass]

Could you claim benefits? I know you can in the UK but not sure about canada.

My dad took early retirement at the age of 49 (not sure your age but the younger you are the more opportunities in the future there will be) due to mental health issues and now at the age of 59 he has a new full time job.

So, i agree with the above that early retirement closes no doors and im assuming (if wrongly i apologise) that if your hubby has a job you are in a more fortunate position of having money coming in as opposed to being single with no one elses salary to help. Sorry if ive wrongly assumed.

You know in your heart whats best im sure. Just trust yourself to listen to it

Take care xx

[Misunderstood.]

I agree with whateveryone has said about taking it. I think it is the best decision for your well-being and that's the most important thing.

Catherine xxxx