Not really sure where to post this, so I shall put it here.
I have hired a new girl at work the other day and since they wear short sleve shirts, I have noticed she self harms.
I felt bad for her the other day because she had no ride home so I offered her a ride and found out she lives in a homeless shelter.....
Now the question....
Should I say anything to her about the self harm and if so how do I approach it. Seems like alot of people are talking about her cutting herself behind her back.
I myself do not self harm so I am really not sure how to handle the situation.
I would say first off to make sure that no one is rude/mean/nasty etc to her about it.
I don't know that I would say anything to her specifically about her scars/SI, but I would maybe say something like "You seem like you are going through a hard time right now, are you getting proper support?" or something like that.
I don't know how helpful that is going to be, but thats the best i've got for now.
Well it breaks my heart to see you this way,
The beauty in life, where's it gone?
And somebody told me you were doing okay,
Somehow I guess they were wrong.
Mmmm. For me personally i'd say that i felt very awkward in saying this but..i've noticed the scars on her arms and i'd say how i understood..and that if she ever needed someone to talk to..that i was there for her.
Sometimes it's comforting when you're a self harmer for someone to acknowledge it and actually say don't be ashamed..i understand..and have that offer of support. I'd forever be grateful to someone if they were to say that to me..
But then that's just me and my opinion..heh..
But Jess made a good point about pointing her in the direction of RYL if she has internet access.. xxx
Okay i've had a bit of a think about this Linda. When I started my new job, my scars were very obvious, one of the other workers asked me outright what they were adn I told her. She was lovely about it and genuinely wanted to know more about self harm as a couple of the kids on her case load self harm. Later I found out that another worker here (asswipe) was going 'oh my god, have you seen her arms, omg what a freak! has she tried to kill herself? (and he wonders why clients keep trying to stab him *cough*
So in my opinion it might be better to stamp down on it in the office for one (it's not nice to talk behind peoples backs...) and also to say what Aidey said baout going through a rough time at the moment and that you are there to help if she would like someone to talk to. And that you are aware of a great site that could help with some information and support if she's not comfortable talking to you. :) Hopefully with a job she'll be able to save some money and get her own place and soon get back on her feet but support is awlasy good. *nods*
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
i would just simply say "if you ever need anyone to talk to, im here to listen".
or something along those lines.
and of course pay special attention that no one is bullying or degrading her at work.
thats all i got.
Rachel
xxxxxx
A little Consideration, a little Thought for Others, makes all the difference.
Is there any way that she can wear long-sleeve shirts on the job? Even if you just can get her a long-sleeve t-shirt to go under her uniform shirt? Just a thought to give her a bit more privacy in the job? I know this is clothing advice but didn't know if it could be done.
I sure can't add amy more to what the others have said!
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
Mmmm. For me personally i'd say that i felt very awkward in saying this but..i've noticed the scars on her arms and i'd say how i understood..and that if she ever needed someone to talk to..that i was there for her.
Sometimes it's comforting when you're a self harmer for someone to acknowledge it and actually say don't be ashamed..i understand..and have that offer of support. I'd forever be grateful to someone if they were to say that to me..
But then that's just me and my opinion..heh..
But Jess made a good point about pointing her in the direction of RYL if she has internet access.. xxx
exactly what i was thiing. I, too, would be gratefl for a kind word (and YOUR woll kind, no-judgemental)...justemeber your name...AND howwhy you got it!!!
*hugs you like ma*
*has missed you immensly*
love you li
romp
(pls let uknow what you do/decide ok??0
[h to also add...she is VERY luky to have YOU in her corner]
I think that so long as you show compassion and understanding, any of the suggestions above would be a good way to approach it. She may not want to talk about it but at least she will know that you are there if she does need some help. I hope it all goes well x
