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Being needy??!
Right this is a bit random, so bear with me...
was just reading a post about hospital, and getting admitted.. and someone had posted that they were not allowed into hospital ever, as the services didnt want them to become 'reliant'. Now, I have had the same problem, to the point where the police make regular 'welfare checks' on me, having been alerted by the crisis team, however even after a suicide attempt last year they will NEVER admit me, or even the crisis team visit me. Its **** cos the police always want to take me to A&E and I have to explain to them for ages... I wont get any help there.
They usually end up sectioning me and forcing me to get assessed... but no matter how bad things are I never get admitted... because they dont want me to be 'reliant on services'.
WTF????
Do they tell dialysis patients to go away cos they are reliant on services??? Then why me???
GRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!
Anyway, this led me to thinking about how blokes often think I am not independent enough..
Now this is puzzling me, cos although I do love to be cuddled whenever possible, I actually do need time alone. An I want to do things in life that I wouldnt let a man stop me. And all my friends with blokes are far far less independent than me! (eg, living with the partners, or at least meeting every day etc)
I also went on a 5week trip to india, while me and my ex were having 'time apart' - he would constantly tell me to be more independent (other gf's he's treated much better than me and lived with too, I was never even allowed out with his friends and only saw him 2/3 times a week for not long sometimes - have totally separate friends too)... the following year I went to asia for 4 months and left him the same day due to the way he treated me... but others I know seem to find it so hard to even consider leaving their bf's.. even tho theyve been together same amount of time we had. So how am I needy or not independent??
Grr, I really dont get it but want to... its horrible to generally be viewed a certain way despite the fact that theres no evidence.. am i just exuding neediness somehow??
its awful cos my ex was always on at me about it, whenever i asked to be treated properly.. he convinced me i wanted too much... but all his others gf's he treated properly... i dont understand
but i hate being needy cos it scraes men off.. i dont get how others dont tho wen they r far more needy than me
Beth
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