Has it gone too far?

[lonelycappuccino]

Hello everyone...
My boyfriend and I are going through a very rough time. To cut a long story short, I was too flirtacious with other boys and was very horrible about him on myspace so he started emailing an ex girlfriend (I think) of his. He confronted me about the flirting and I told him I'd stop. The thing is, he doesn't really trust me becuase I've broken his trust so many times. I asked him stop emailing the girl, but I don't know if he will because he doesn't know if I can change.
Also, I know his password to his email account, and being the curious masochist I am, I looked at the emails.
They weren't flirtacious or anything but they're sending each other parcels. He was going to send her one of his hoodies that I have but (before I knew) I didn't let him have it.

He doesn't know I know about the emails. I don't know wether to tell him I know and to stop, but make him angry at me for looking at his emails, or to not do anything at all and be unhappy and unknowing. He's not going to change his password anytime soon so I could look at them any time I wanted. I know that's not a nice thing to do and he deserves privacy but... Please help me.

[Livia]

I'm far from an expert on relationships (actually, I always mess them up), but still I'd say that the twho of you need to have a new discussion, and a long one. A relationship without trust doesn't tend to hold for long, so you've got to do something about that. And be honest when discussing, tell him what you've done and exactly what you feel and think about him emailing with his ex and so on - only by being completly honest you can build a solid, stable base to start anew from.

I know this wasn't much of an comment, but it's the only thing I can think of that might save your relationship (if you really want to save it). Maybe someone with a little more experience with stable relationships can give you better advice. Good luck.

[charcoal feathers]

You two need to talk.
If there's no trust, there isn't much point in a relationship.
Sit down with him and tell him how you are feeling. I don't know what you've done in the past to break his trust, but do you really actually have strong feelings for the guy and want to be with him?
maybe, go on a break and see how you both feel after a couple of weeks without being with each other.
just talk with him, it's the only way you'll be able to sort anything