Triggering (SI) - I HATE HIM SO MUCH

Wednesday 13 · 25-06-2007, 03:01 AM

I look so much like my dad and i just want him to get out of my life, its s hard looking liek someone you hate so myuch and i need it to go away. I tried to get rid of him but i ended up in hospital and they think im losing it big time. WHat can i do?? please help me! plEASE

Mandimoo · 25-06-2007, 03:47 AM

makeup? im guessing he wouldnt ever wear makeup. please try to be strong, and be safe. mand x

Jasmine222222 · 25-06-2007, 04:52 AM

What makes you hate him so much sweetie? Would you like to tell us?

25-06-2007, 05:39 AM

Hey hunni.
Just think, you're better than him. Sometimes a good way to think is that he's just a stupider copy of you, and you're the better. Try it, it works sometimes.
Wear make up is a good idea. I don't think he would wear that.

Take Care sweetie.
xxx

Stellata · 25-06-2007, 08:07 AM

I look somewhat like my dad too, more so when I was younger. It was hard for me, too. Especially when my mum would say 'you're just as bad as your father' [emotionally speaking]. How that hurt!
What has happened for you to feel such violent hatred towards your dad?

Remember that just because you share some physical similarities doesn't mean you are like him in other ways. But I understand how it can feel like the boundaries are blurry of what's him and you and that can be chaotic and confusing and make the anger even stronger.

You say you've been in hospital. Are you recieving any follow up treatment, any support? Therapy can really help in understanding anger and hatred, and helping to hold it all more safely.