Hi... I'm new here. Not new to these sites though, used to use them a lot when I was younger. I have a problem I'm hoping you can help me solve.
Today I had my first flash back for years, and with it the strongest compulsion to cut since I was 19, but I've forgotten what my coping methods were! And how do you deal with it as an adult with all the stresses? I know there were stresses when I was younger too but they didn't seem so pressing. I mean, for example, right now I'm holding back tears while my son is running round my feet clamouring for attention but everytime I look at him I can feel the tears start running. I feel so lost!
And embarrassed too, I know you never really do but I thought I'd grown out of all this
hiya *hugz*
dont feel embarrassed hun
crazy_rabbit)lady has give some really good advice for some distractions, and your welcome 2 send me a private massage anytime if u feel like you need 2 talk to some one.
what do you think caused the sudden flash back?
did u have any help/suport when you was younger to deal with everything?
take care of your self
xxxx
Hi, first of all, welcome to RYL. I hope you find it useful.
As the others have said, maybe you need to deal with what is behind everything. Have you ever had the chance to do that before? Is it possible you could see a counsellor, your GP or someone similar who can give you professional support?
"Everything is possible through Christ, who gives me strength". Phillipians 4:13
Dont be afraid to cry, sometimes this is what you need as a release.
Is there a reason why it has come back now? Are you feeling particularly stressed? Ddi something remind you off the incident?
If so can you do something to avoid it happening again.
Sounds to me like you have recovered well, just go easy on yourself and give yourself some slack. You are doing well.
thank you for the welcome even if you have no advice it's nice to know to know people are listening.
I had some help but not much. I tend to deal with things as they come up, and as my mum is an NLP praticioner we use that. I had one disasterous session with a pshycologist when I was fourteen. After half an hour with me she decided I should go into a home without even trying to find out what my problem was (multiple rape) (thankfully I wasn't because my mum and I protested so much) But you can understand why I'm wary so now.
It triggered when I was reading a thread on msn re: compensation for rape and a few people detailed their experiences. I shouldn't have read it but I have a personal interest, never having taken my attackers to court to court but I have thought about it.
I just need someone to talk to. I have friends but have tried to choose friends without similar problems so I don't get triggered (or so I thought!) I don't like to go into the reason behind my scars.
Will the flashbacks ever go away? Will the thoughts stop? I'm so frustrated! I hate the thought that five years down the line I'll be in the same situation. It's like they've won! And the can't. I MUST win. I know I sound like a sports team coach but if they win my self-esteems dust.
i dont have any advice but i hope you're feeling better soon and if you ever need a hug or something, feel free to pm me *hugs*
btw welcome to RYL and vets :)
if giving yourself a pep talk works then go for it! we all need things to keep us going through the really tough times
in my personal expirience the flasbacks ease with help and working through it, its not an easy thing to deal with but if i can support or help you in any way i am here
That's good idea Rabbit Lady, I suspect it is time get proffessional help to try and close that part of my life.
The compulsion has now fully passed (until the next time, lol) And I would like to deeply thank everyone who posted on here! THANK YOU EVERONE FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART <3
You are all a wonderful bunch of people, I'm so glad to have found this site :)
I have a milder form of flashbacks called intensive memories. They involve one sense instead of all of them and are not disabling. I figure it is how my system, conscious, subconscious and body, is dealing with all of the trauma of the past. So as icky as it is, i lket it happen.
Hope to see you around!
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