Should I accept counselling? I know that no one can really tell me yes or no, but I'm just a bit confused right now.
I don't think counselling will help me. I'm not the type of person to talk about things. And anyway, I'm over what made me depressed in the first place, now I'm just depressed for no real reason. Why do I need a counsellor when I have friends I could talk to?
The doctor took me off the medication and said that counselling would probably be more beneficial for me, but I just agreed to it because I couldn't say no.
Really, what I'm asking is what could counselling do for me that my friends can't? I did counselling before and it never worked so I don't really want to go through all that again for nothing to change.
Thanks Trace. I had counselling for about six sessions (I think) before I'd had enough of feeling rubbish and not feeling like I was getting anywhere positive. It was just talking about stuff that had happened. It did not help.
I just don't want to put myself through it all again for no gain. It's also based in the local surgery in which I know at least five people who work there. That's also putting me off a bit.
I've been referred to a local place for counselling for people who self-harm. I don't really want to go. I know why I do it, I know it's wrong. I know it won't help me in the long run.
When I saw the woman last week for my assessment I didn't feel comfortable at all. I felt like she was judging me. I know that it was probably my mind thinking that when she wasn't really, but I don't really want to feel like that every time.
I'm not sure what it the maximum I can get, I didn't ask. But I can understand that six isn't anywhere near enough.
It was more that she was judging my parents, but also judging me by extension. I don't really know. It was just what she was saying and how she looked at me. I have absolutely no idea if I will see her or be referred on. If I accept counselling then I know I'll see her at first and then possibly be moved on again.
I didn't think to ask these things. I went into myself and only answered when asked. I didn't volunteer information.
I don't think I can call her, at least I don't have a number for her. I was told that if I want to have it then I should call my doctor and let him know.
I'm so confused! I think that I should try, but I don't want to go through it all for it not to do anything for me. Argh!
Erm, if I don't do counselling I'll suck it up and get on with things. Like I always do. Probably not the best solution though.
There is an option to leave it. I have a couple of weeks to decide and if I say no then I'll just have to go through the referrals system again, which didn't take that long really.
I was worried you'd say that about the doctor. He seems to have washed his hands of me. Told me to see the counsellor and if I'm still depressed then go back and see him. He didn't want to do anything more what with me going back to university soon.
I'll see if I can give him a call and ask him about this.
A different doctor isn't really an option. Counselling at uni gives at most six to eight sessions and the waiting list is quite long for it, I believe. I think this is probably the best chance I have at the moment. I could maybe ask if I could see someone else, but that has its downsides. One of them being the creation of psychiatric notes which won't occur with her since she is based within the practice. Or so I am led to believe.
I could maybe try it and then say that I don't think it's working for me if I don't like it.
hi,
i wrote this huge reply to you this morning but the thing told me "internet connection could not be found" and lost my reply... was very annoyed. so i will try and write something with my poor memory skills
i have lots of people in my life now that know i sh and are having major depression issues, and my friends and managers are fab to talk to, they listen, they give their honest opinions and give me lots of hugs but they cant help because they dont have the experience or expertise in this area. dont get me wrong having great friends which is what you sound like you have to are a HUGE help but they cant get us better in the long run
so,i dont think it is a bad idea... and believe me i dont like counsellors as a species. however i think when things get to a point where they arent getting better then we need to try things again.
i have seen 4 different counsellors over the last 11 years, 2 in the last 8months (which was through nhs counsellors, as i work for nhs)and i never completed the course of 7 sessions in either, infact generally i only made 1 or 2
i have recently found a fantastic doctor as my gp surgery through chance and i totally love her to pieces, she is the first doctor that ive ever told about my sh, and cried infront of her and just feel confortable telling things, so i do believe the person you see makes all the difference. if you dont like the counsellor you see then change them.
my gp has recently referred me to the chmt, so waiting for an appointment but we discussed going to group sh therapy (through the chmt)which i am keener to do the one to one counselling cos i think who better to help you than people that are going through it too and understand completely also chance to make friends too.
i think it might be an idea to give it ago and if it doesnt help then you dont have to continue but worth giving it a go, could be best thing you ever do.
take care xx
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!!
Thanks. I hate it when my internet cuts out after writing a huge reply!
I think I'll give it a bash. I'll need to try and get in touch with my doctor. I think he's on holiday for the next couple of days. I'll maybe leave a message for him.
I just sit completely still and don't say a word. Sometimes I cry, but you don't have to move or make a sound to cry. It's not because I'm scared or stubborn, it's because I'm never really there and because I'm not sure how to not do that. And especially speak, I don't know how to open my mouth or order my thoughts, or move my tongue or get them spat out or make them sound how they were thought, and whether to trust the lady in the first place.
My hands move sometimes though.
It doesn't really work for me then, all it does it shakes me up a lot and nothing is ever said or resolved or anything. I'm not a talky person either. I would say try though. A few times. Just try it and see. You may be unsuccessful, but you can always try.
I just sit completely still and don't say a word. Sometimes I cry, but you don't have to move or make a sound to cry. It's not because I'm scared or stubborn, it's because I'm never really there and because I'm not sure how to not do that. And especially speak, I don't know how to open my mouth or order my thoughts, or move my tongue or get them spat out or make them sound how they were thought, and whether to trust the lady in the first place.
My hands move sometimes though.
It doesn't really work for me then, all it does it shakes me up a lot and nothing is ever said or resolved or anything. I'm not a talky person either. I would say try though. A few times. Just try it and see. You may be unsuccessful, but you can always try.
yeh i do similar whenever i've been to counsellors too, play with my hands ALOT or pick at my jeans
but im gonna give it another go to, becuase quite frankly i need to do something else, so give it a go. as i said before if you dont feel comfortable with person they try someone else xx
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!!
at your gp practice do you have to see the same dr each time??
cos maybe if you not finding your one to helpful then maybe try seeing someone else, thats what i did and found a brill dr because of it!
think its def worth a go, good luck and let us know how you get on xx
Yes, it's the same doctor. He's not bad, just seems to have said to go to counselling. He's better than the other doctor I went to who told me I'd just have to learn to live with passing out all the time.
this pic is so i can always remember jen who was my l'il sock monkey friend who has left ryl and i miss her!!! 
