Hello =)
Trace has given you some very good advice above and is quite right that this is not a silly post and is the right place to have made it.
I agree with what Trace said and so thought I would give you a personal answer based on my expereince?
- Is it a good or bad thing to be with someone who has also been through some tough times?
My manthing hasn't had rough times... so far as self-harm or abusive history or anythign like that. But he, like everyone, has his own insecurites and challenges as a person. Most people do. But he accepts my past of self-harming and whilst he doesn't like the thought of it and has always completely accepted it from the 4th time we met.
- And how do you know you like someone, because I'm scared that I'll just fall for the first guy who shows interest towards me just because it makes me feel loved/wanted...
I know what you mean here. It's that feeling, they like me... I'll settle into this and just do it because it's nice to feel wanted. To be honest, when we're young... lots of people do experience this and do things like have random kisses and cuddles ;) However, it is definately about keeping yourself safe, taking your time and not doing anything that you don't want to.
Relationships can be a great things, they can be a difficult thing... and they do help you grow in a different way.
Take care of yourself,
Chloe x
p.s Always use condoms!! =P
