pregnant and scared

lhayb · 29-08-2008, 03:12 PM

hi. i just reli need sum advice if anyone can help. im pregnant atm and was going to have an abortion but i cant go through with it so was concidering adoption. i told the babys father, who im not with but hes still a very close friend of mine. and he told me he dnt want to know me until the baby is born. i dont want him to take away my baby but im not sure on what to do for the best. i dont know what to do best for my baby and im not sure if im capable of bringing up a child alone.

Tears of Solitude · 29-08-2008, 03:48 PM

You dont say how far pregnant you are. I am so sorry you are going through this tough time.

It cant help with all these hormones going all over the place as well.

Ask your midwife all options that are open to you. Once you have the baby in your arms, then you can decide what option you want to happen.

Good luck honey
My thoughts are with you

Jade xxx

Mandimoo · 29-08-2008, 06:21 PM

hi, what is your living situation? how old are you? how many weeks pregnant are you?

when you hold your baby in your arms you will think, how did i create something so perfect? how is it possible to be so gorgeous? you won't want to put your baby down.
mand x

blondiebear · 30-08-2008, 05:37 AM

It is ok if you don't think you can bring up a child alone. It is okay if you love your baby to want the best for him and if the best is for you to let her go.

I'm not a mother. I don't understand what you are going through. All of the wonderful ladies above are moms. I knew that I had no business having a child because people who are abused become abusers and I was horribly abused. Sometimes I am sad but I know that it was for the best.

Whatever you do will be ok. You will do it because you love your child and want what is best for her.

blue_cloud · 30-08-2008, 10:40 AM

i believe you have to do what you geel is right, once you see your baby its just something i can't describe but also the months of really hard work that follow can become overwhelming so you will need some good support in place, having the baby adopted is not a bad thing but its if you can actually hand your baby over once its here, also what is the dad like as a person? will he help once the baby is here? what about his family?
hope everything goes well let us know how you are xx

lhayb · 30-08-2008, 02:52 PM

hi. thank you so much for your replys. i didnt realise it would help so much. im 6 weeks pregnant. the father wants the baby to be aborted and wont listen to a word i say about any other options so now wants nothing to do with me. i live at home with my mum which isnt ideal but i think i would have her support, i havnt yet told her though. im just scared that i wont be able to cope once the babys here and im terrified that if i do have the baby i wont be able to give the best future.

lhayb · 30-08-2008, 03:18 PM

thank you. yeh i think i will have to talk to my mum. it may help to see things abit more clearly for me. its just getting the courage to do it now. im am quite hopeless!
thanks for your help

Mandimoo · 30-08-2008, 04:37 PM

me and my hubby live with our 5month old with my parents and brothers - free baby sitters! we havent been well recently and every morning mum has taken chloe for a few hours so we could both get some sleep, she also takes her monitor for at least one night a week and baby sits so we can go out somewhere together.
mand x