Okay when i had mine I went to the family planning clinic and a female nurse did it for me. I would suggest that option if your'e scared. I was PETRIFIED! And they're really good. i had to tell them why i was so scared so they could help. They're really good about it though. *hugs*
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
do you have to.....like...take all your bottom half off, in front of them.....and just stand there?
(i'll add a trig label to this thread now i think)
cos that freaks me out.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break
that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.
There are only two ways in which one can live their life. One is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is.
Nope, they leave you for a few minutes to undress and wrap the paper robe/sheet around yourself. Then they will help you keep covered until it is time for them to actually examine those parts, then cover you up again. Then they will leave so you can dress.
If the doc is a man, there should be a female nurse as a chaperone. If not, you can ask for one. She will stand at your head or something, not be looking at the part of you that is being examined. The first time, my sis went with me and she made a point of holding my hand, then showing my engagement ring to the nurse-chaperone.
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My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
I had two! One held my hand and I had a MAJOR panic attack and they were so good and just talked me through it. You undress behind a curtain and then cover yourself with a towel. You WILL be okay. Do you have any friends that you trust enough to come with you? I had a social worker who's helped me in the past come with me. lol she had to stand in front of the door to stop me bolting! She sat behind the curtain and talked to me as well as the nurse and stuff.
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
no friends here who could come with me. my counsellors office is close so she could *possibly* come but i dunno, i think that might be weird. (thats if im even still seeing her).
arghhhhhhhhhhhh stupid tests.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break
that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.
There are only two ways in which one can live their life. One is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is.
I haven't had one in much too long. Don't know that I will be able to for a while either. Sigh. *hides*
My husband is my best friend.
In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.
Also, when you book the appointment you can say what it is for and explain how stressed you are and see if you can get like a double appointment to take the pressure off you and give you some time to take your time and feel in control.
- that's a good idea, i can book double appointments so i will do that.
my normal dr is a lady, but i don't know if it would be weird having her do it as she knows me quite well and i don't know if I could handle her doing it (sound weird?)
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Also take a sanitary towel/panty liner with you just incase you bleed after.
i wonder how long it will take me to actually go and do this, lol. probably months. actually i might leave it till after the summer holidays (dec/jan). hmm, sounds like a good plan.....
sorry for reminding you you're overdue girlies.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break
that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.
There are only two ways in which one can live their life. One is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is.
YOu didn't remind me lol i got a letter in the mail... whihc i'm ignoring *couhg* and then someone at work mentioned that she's got to have hers too! Was kinda funny really :P
They'll give you a pad after if you need it. It's okay. :) *cuddles* my reccomendation is to do it right away otherwise you stress and it gets much worse!
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Hon, I'm in the same situation - I have to have an internal when I go to hospital to have the baby and I'm scared too.
I was advised to talk to the nurse (midwife in my case, obviously) and tell them why you're worried. Also, ask them to explain every part of the procedure as it's done, so you feel more in control, and arrange with them to stop if you need to. Just feeling that you have a bit of control should hopefully help (that's what my keyworker keeps telling me )
Hey, I'm not around here much but wanted to show my support. I thoroughly second the advice above that the worry beforehand is SO much worse than the actual thing. I personally found it better to have a female do it. They were professional and, aside from the fact I was naked from the waist down, I remembered that I was probably the god knows what number vagina she had seen that day lol. But seriously, now I've had one I will not worry like I did. And I did not have any kind of bleeding afterwards. I would also add that you really should try for that double appointment time so you can have a little chat first to calm down.
Just go for it hun, talk to people in order to take control. Silence makes everything a million times worse. One minute of realising that you're 'just another vagina' is so much more preferable to the health risks of not getting a smear.
Autumn xxx
Sorry, me again. I wasn't skirting the issue of why you're scared...just would be rude for me to give advice on something I have not experienced so was just trying to say how the actual test was xxx
I just had a talk with a lady from sexual health today and she is going to e-mail me next week about mine. I'm getting it done prety soon. If I can do it, you can do it! *hugs*
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
i dont know if a nurse can do the internal exam, so you may have to see a dr for that.
vicky, i didnt have to have many internals - only 3, one when i came in, one 3 hours later and one when i told her i needed to push, they try to leave it 4hrs between exams, they're not too bad and your mind is more occupied with the pain of contractions and getting your baby out. in my case i wanted the exams coz i wanted to know how far along i was.
mand x
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