Do parents talk about their kids?

newanda · 04-08-2008, 09:19 AM

Basically, i've been wanting to talk to my mom about some stuff for quiet a while now. I really want to open up to her and share with her my life. It just feels like the right time. She knows me on the surface, but not any further. I've realized that keeping everything to myself and shutting myself off from the world only makes everything worse. I want her to know me and love me for who i am, not who she thinks I am. Sounds good, right?

Well, i'm not to keen on letting my dad in on any of it. I don't consider my dad and I to be close at all. I don't feel comfortable talking to him at all, and i feel like it just isn't any of his business anyway. I also think that what i have to say would probably damage our relationship rather than help it. Plus i'm afraid of what he'd say to me and don't think that he'd have any constructive advice or guidance to give.

Is it crazy and wierd and selfish of me to ask my mom, whose been married to my dad for 27 years, to keep it all a secret for her 25 year old daughter? TBH, I don't know how a marrage works so i don't know if married people talk about their children. I guess i just wonder if it would be a burden for her to not talk to him about it? Gahh... i just don't know how this is going to work. If anyone has any advice pleeeeese lay it on me!

Casper_Fading · 04-08-2008, 09:25 AM

I know that my parents would never keep anything from each other. I'm nto sure about other parents though. I would never keep anything from my fiance either.

effervescence · 04-08-2008, 10:02 AM

if it was my mother she would tell my father. sadly. i think most parents who are still married or in a relationship would tell each other stuff about you.

newanda · 04-08-2008, 05:08 PM

Thanks everyone for your replies.
That's pretty much what i thought, that she'd tell him.
I think i'm going to have to talk to her anyway. I always feel like i'm being a different person around her, and it's getting hard to keep that up.

In my mind, i think i'm just trying to use him as an excuse to get out it. I flip flop all the time about wether or not I care what he thinks and weather or not I care if he's in my life or not. I hope this isn't the nail in the coffin of our relationship but i'm scared that is will be. Then i'll really feel like it was my fault and that i should have just kept my mouth shut and kept on pretending.

Gahhh... I'm not supposed to care what he thinks, but lately he's been doing this thing where he's nice to me. I hate it, it's kind of wierd, but it's also nice to have a dad for a change. He's done this before, so now i'm just waiting for the crash that always comes when he decides he's done enough for now.