Just a few of questions!
1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
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I first found out about it when one of my form did it yet i didnt know it was called self harm then. She had quite a messed up life that lots of people knew about and she had cuts on her arms higher than hers wrists.
In my honest opinion i thought she was attention seeking and i also thought she was trying to pretend to kill herself, and i probably even told her that, which if i did i am ashamed of.
But since i have started i have realised what she was doing to herself, just the same as me. It is so easy to judge someone when you dont understand the situation and thats what i did, now that i have the knowlegde of whats its about i understand my reaction towards her was wrong and that is what so many people do when theydont understand they just assume stuff without knowing the real facts.
To be honest i dont know if i would ever understand it if i hadnt started it myself.
Thats what my view was on it now tell yours please!
I dont like what i thought of it then cos i've had people react like that to me now and i know its not nice...so i'm sorry Vicky it was wrong of me.
Amy
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i never really came across it before i started and i just accepted it to be something you cant really understand unless you've been there. i didnt really think about it much but if i had come across someone who did i would have probably thought differently.
I had never heard of it before I started doing it. I didn't even understand why I was doing it, and I felt like a pathetic freak, because I had no idea other people did it too, I didn't know it was an actual thing, I thought I was just weird because I was cutting myself and it made me feel better. Sorry, I can't really help... but I wanted to respond anyways..
I may be a bit different to most (I am in pretty much everything lol!) as I was having urges to SI for 7 or 8 yrs before I actually did it though I didn't always connect my urges with the end result or anything, it was a bit strange.
1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
I thought it was something people did when they were having a hard time. I never thought of it as an attention seeking thing, I alway thought it was a sign of deep emotional pain and that the people who did it needed help and support from others. I kind of felt sorry for people that did it and wondered what must have gone on in their lives to make them feel they needed to hurt themselves.
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
I didn't feel they were attention seeking or anything just that maybe they werre NORMAL people but had a few problems that they were struggling to cope with and maybe that something really bad had gone on in their lives and they had no other way they could feel to cope with it.
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
The first time I met one of my mates I saw scars on her arms and I just saw them and noted that they were there, wondered what had happened for her to do it but saw her as a normal person and nothing else. It was just something that she'd done that may have been different to what other people had done.
Tbh... i sound like a T*at but i thought the people doing it were incredibly crazy and odd.... *harsh i know ishouldent have judged before i understood* Obviously i dont think that now and i feel guilty for ever thinking it
A few of the girls at my school used to *show* there scars off to their friends so i just thought they were attention seekers...
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1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
I didn't know about it much but i got told by an older girl it was how she coped so i tried it. (I was 11 and very impressionable)
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
I didn't know anyone else apart from that girl and I thought she had it all sorted because she said it was such a good coping mechanism
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
Shock if it is people I know and quite un easy about it until i get used to the idea in a few days. On strangers, relief I'm not the only one.
I didn’t think anything because I had no conception of what SI was until a girlfriend started cutting in front of me. At the time I had no idea what to think other than being confused and clueless as what to do. I only met her once after that (although not because of the SI) and I quickly understood why she did it (I started soon afterwards).
TBH I have never seen scars on anybody else but then again I don’t think that I have ever consciously looked.
1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
A close friend self-harming at the time, I was really worried about her and tried to talk to a teacher about it, to get her some help... But I must admit, I did think it was attention seeking and crazy at the time. Then I don't know, I guess I was angry one day and I gave it a try, with the "Well it must work for them..." attitude. >_< (I sound so stupid *Cringes*)
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
Attention seekers, crazy and that they had took the whole "stereotype" thing way overboard. >_< 3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
I couldn't stop staring, I was desperate to talk to them but just stepped back and pretended I hadn't seen, It kinda upsets me that they have have been or having to go through all that.
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1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
I didn't come into contact with it before I started, so I guess I can't comment on this.
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
Again, with no contact, I didn't really think anything of the people.
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
Before I used to think they'd had horrible accidents and that's how their arms/legs got like that, but now I'm just relieved someone out there does the same as me.
1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
I guess I didn't know what I was doing was self-harm but before I started the thought of someone hurting themselves was just bad to me and I never understood why because this never got explained to me
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
I guess... Err... I don't know really...
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
Before I started alot of thoughts went through my head as to what could have happened to them and what accident could have caused this...bBut after I started I started to realise what it was and slowly realised I wasn't alone in this so I pretended I didn't see them as I didn't want to be caught out myself
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1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
I didnt really come across it before I did it, I used to bang my head a lot before I cut but I cant remember ever coming across SI till a lot later into doing it.
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
Again i hadnt had contact with people who did, so I didnt think anything. Ive met people since but because I understand what its like, its hard to know how i would have been had I not been there myself.
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
again due to lack of seeing anyone I didnt react. Once soon into starting cutting I saw a girl with a lot of scars but no visible new cuts and I kinda thought she was inspirational to have seemingly got through her self harm issues and it gave me confidence to believe I could too. I didnt look for long though I just kinda noticed
"If only everyone could know and live with their inner craziness…people would be fairer and happier." Paulo Coelho
I had never heard of it before I started doing it. I didn't even understand why I was doing it, and I felt like a pathetic freak, because I had no idea other people did it too, I didn't know it was an actual thing, I thought I was just weird because I was cutting myself and it made me feel better. Sorry, I can't really help... but I wanted to respond anyways..
I didn't understand why I did it in the first place.....I just remember seeing it only on films and stuff, and for some reason, it seemed like a good idea at the time. Maybe it was a subconscious facination or intrigue? Everyone is intrigued by dark and scary things to some degree, I believe...But I definately don't do it for that reason, never did. I never met other people that did it until highschool...quite a few of my girl friends did it, and we all knew about it eventually but kept it quite amongst us. I'm usually sympathetic when I see other people with scars, and hope I can give off this "I understand" vibe. I don't bring it up unless they want to discuss it.
The only time visible scars bother me is when someone seems to be flaunting them...SI is something that I personally find so shameful, and I don't understand why someone wouldn't be careful about keeping it under wraps (no pun intended.) A lot of it depends on the personality of the individual...Like, I can usually sense something within their demeanor or self-presentation...Don't know if that makes sense.
1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
I thought it was stupid, i diddnt understand why anybody would ever want to do that to themselves.
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
i thought they were all "emo" i was like those people that i hate more then anything who made fun of them...i'm so ashamed of it now
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them? I want to ask them all these qustions and tell them that i do it to. i never do of corse haha
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle."
1.What did you think of SI before you even started? I hadn't really known about it much, I mean I knew it was out there and such but never really had much to do with it so can't really comment here.
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
I didn't think anything of them cos I didn't know of them so no comment here really
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
I never really reacted I sorta pretended I didn't notice them and stuff. I mean first person I knew of was my now ex but he was my best mate and if I was with him he never minded if i noticed them and stuff. Like when we were goin out i used to sit stroking his scars so it never really bothered me. Now my best mate at the min she hid hers and when she told me about it I didnt know how to react but I think she knew that I wanted to give her a huge hug cos she just said it was ok now. She only told me cos I told her I was doing it and she wanted to help me through it.
1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
I didn't really know it existed before I started really, I knew my cousin had scars and stuff on my arms, but I believed it was her cat that had caused them and everything. I've always scratched, head banged or whatever for as long as I can remember (a recent revelation that I've not come to terms with yet), but with my cousin doing it, I didn't think it was that abnormal to be honest, that came when I got older and learnt that it wasn't.
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
Well, given that my cousin had done it for as long as I remember, I didn't think much of anyone else who did it, apart from perhaps the odd, oh they must have a cat like Louise's. It's hard to judge people who do something that you've grown up seeing constantly anyways. Don't know how much sense that makes but there we go.
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
I just notice that the scars are there, if, as it has been a few times, it's a friend either telling me, or accidentally showing scars, I'll just let them know that I'm there for them if they need me to be and just the general. If it's accidental, sometimes I've been known to write them a note, let them know I've seen, and am there for them if they want, as a note lets them think through everything in their own time without having to make an immediate decision to talk or not.
If it's a stranger, I don't do anything much, just wonder briefly what's been going on for them that they feel that bad.
~Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly~
1.What did you think of SI before you even started? Umm to be honest i was freaked out by it... i didn't come across it till i came to high school and my friend was doing it.. and i couldn't understand i thought she was doing it for attention....
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
I thought they were all emos, and that they were trying to get attention...
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
I kinda reacted calmly towards them.. but inside i was thinking please don't show them.. cos i didn't want people to think i had a weird friend.... But on the outside i was calm and pretended i hadn't seen them...
1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
I thought that people must be really ill to need to hurt themselves on purpose. I thought I'd never do it, that it was disgusting... but look at me now, eh?
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
I don't know really. I felt really sorry for them, and always wished that I could help them because I didn't want them to hurt themselves. I know, I'm so nice. ^^
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
This doesn't really apply, I've never seen scars that I thought were from SI. I saw a scar on a person's wrist one before, and I didn't immediately think 'cutter,' I just thought her cat or something had scratched her and left a mark.
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1.What did you think of SI before you even started?
Urm, I was too young to really be aware of it (at 10/11 yo) I met just one girl who self harmed before I started and a lot of girls asked her questions about it but I told them to give her a break and thought they were odd for being so curious. So she cut herself? big deal. But I think I was depressed at the time anyway, so maybe I sympathised. I think I thought SH was a lot more closley related to suicide though, and I could sympathise with wanting to die, I didn't really see it as a way of coping.
2.What did you think of the people who did it?
I thought they were suicidal or depressed, and I felt sorry for them, but also like I could relate even as a person who at that time had never self harmed.
3.If you have seen SI scars on people how did you react to them?
Now or then? Now I guess I look, out of curiosity, but it doesn't really effect me anymore. People who self harm, people who don't, doesn't make much difference. Then? I guess it was the same, just curious really. Not much else.
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1. i always asked myself how ppl could do that to themselves i was always kinda scared to do it. like i never thought i would be able to hurt myself like that.
2. i didnt really look down on ppl who did it i just always wondered how they could possibly get to the point of having to hurt themselves. i have known ppl who did it before me, so i kinda understod it.
3. before i started i didnt really no they were SI scars until i knew my friend did it. now i envy ppl with them....bc its hard for me to do it badly bc my mom knows about it.
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