Triggering (SI/OD) - Im no good

[xanthismom]

This morning my boyriend got up to take my sis to the airport at 4am he snapped at me just cos he was running late and i wanted a hug and thats when he snapped at me then i went downstairs and gave him a hug and said i love youand i got a hug back but now im scared he does not want me.He is trying to give up smoking starting today now im feeling like getting something to hurt myelf or take pills it has made me feel like crap now.

[88shelz]

i feel like this alot of the time.
i always need hugs and reasurring "i love yous"

remember it was early in the morning and he would have been tired. when tired most people are grumpy and snappy so try not to let it upset you too much.

if you still feel worried later bring the subject up. simply tell the truth and say that you need a little reasurance at the minute.

i hope you will be ok

[Sometimes Crazy]

I too can relate to how you feel of needing constant reassurance and I understand how it has made you feel. What do you think brings about this need for the reassurance? Try to resist the urge to take the pills or use something to harm yourself - you don't deserve to hurt anymore than you do now, lovely. I can also relate with being in company with people who are trying to give up smoking. Maybe this will bring you together as you can support and encourage each other along, perhaps? Take care,

xx

[Cazki]

I understand what you mean about needing reassurance. It sounds like he was a little stressed and tired. Please try not to let this get you down. Please dont od or use anything else to hurt yourself. If it does worry you, as 88shelz said make sure you bring the subject up with your boyfriend. Hope everything is ok.

Take care best wishes Ian

[crazykat]

Its understandable that you feel this way, your only human we all need a bit of reassurance from those we love from time to time. I feel this same way sometimes.

Try not to take it too much to heart that he snapped at you, he was most likely really tired having to get up that early and probaly a bit stressed since he was running late to the airport.

Please don't hurt yourself anymore than you are already are. I think the best thing would be to talk to your boyfriend and let him know that at the moment you might need a lil extra reassurance.

Take care
Kat xxx

[xanthismom]

I know he loves me even tho he does not say it all the time if i say love you he sometimes just says `i know' but other times he says love you too. im starting to think i don`t deserve to be loved or wanted i will talk to him on the weekend when im up at his place.But my feelings of worthlessness are getting worse i appriciate the support your all giving and im relizing im not alone.

[crazykat]

You do deserve to be loved and wanted, what makes you think you don't deserve this? I think talking to him is a very good idea, even if its just to give you a lil more reassurance. Take care
Kat xxx