Ive have had a job here and there, usually lasting me a couple of months, one job a year, though it made me very depressed and i harmed myself a lot during it and had to leave. They have all been part time and in shops.
Now i have left school, i need a job to keep my mother happy, and shes even written a CV and things for me.
I get striken with fear everytime i think it might be a possibility that i might get a job somewhere. I am bored sitting here, but the fear of working somewhere, having to get there and back, meeting new people, makes me feel sick. Especially the travelling.
i usually understand why i do things, but this i cannot understand. even if it is the perfect job for me, (which one has come up, today, i havent applied though) i just know id still end up having to pull out, and will just get depressed and miserable.
i will talk to my boyfriend about the job that has risen, and he will be able to make me happy about it, i know that. im still so scared of actually getting it though.
Any ideas as to why i am scared?
Has anyone felt like this before?
What could i do?
But i got my latest job, and i love it. Maybe its the idea of being thrown into a new place, where you dont know anyone thats bothering you.
Get a job you think you're going to be happy in. For instance, i work with old people. Im a housekepper in a sheltered housing scheme. Its something that is keeping me in money for afew months until i decide im ready to move on to a high paid, better job.
I think I know how you're feeling... I do want a job eventually but am scared that when it happens I won't be ready and won't be able to cope with the responsibility and pressure and the feeling of being relied upon, even if it's a job that I might love. I understand the part about meeting new people too, people you *have* to be around every day and get along with and communicate with by necessity. It's scary, the whole thing. Have you considered doing some voluntary work, something that you can take or leave, to see how you cope with that? If your gut feeling is that you're really not ready to take on a job then don't feel pressured into it to please other people either, take care of your own needs first and perhaps give yourself a bit more time out to think.
longing tears- yeah i think doing something just for me, would make it less scary, cos id really want to do it.
Star- perhaps a bit of voluntary work would be good during the summer. would make me see that i was ready to go out there, if i am.
sugarcane- im worried about if i will cope, responsibility, pressure as well. i think i will end up taking my gut feeling, as usual. i dont feel ready, and that is why im scared. i keep thinking ill not cope at all.
thank you very much for your replies. hopefully i will get there; whether thats to take up a job or voluntary work and try it out again, or whether its to tell my mam that im not ready to take up a job yet, and i want to say in education for one more year and look at it again.
i feel really guilty having to scrape money off them. especially because im the oldest and the only one not employed. but they know the troubles i go through, before going and after being at work in the past.
I can kind of relate. I have a fear of applying for the jobs and going to interviews. I get super nervous. Which is a bit lame because I am a rather confident, care-free person normally.
Everyone above had great advice. If you are not ready, wait on the job. I agree that voluntary work is a great place to start. I also think that education for another year is a great idea. Perhaps there are classes you can take to get you ready and help you feel more prepared for the workplace? Good luck. :)
I had the exact same thing, I was absolutly terrified of getting a job, my first job sucked and I was very down, self harmed alot and at the end of it quit because I basically had a breakdown. I then hadn't worked in 2years because I was so scared it was going to be the same again (your mind always verts back to the last/negative experience or it did for me anyway) I had CBT to deal with my phobias (as it wasn't just the job thing) which helped alot, and then I got into voluntry work, a few hours a week working in a kitchen with the elderly, I loved it that shut down but I felt ready for a job at that point and I finally got one and have been working 6 weeks now.
You can get through this, think why your scared and write some positivies of having a job, Maybe you could do some voluntry work like others have said (and if your in the UK you can do the v. (millenium volunteers) project which will get you certificates (Plus it looks ace on your cv) It will kill the bordem and give you experience. You can start small, a few hours a week, then work your way up, add in more hours maybe or, get a job.
Good luck with it, Stay Safe and Take Care
Leighxxx
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I haven't had many jobs, I've had... three in total. They've never lasted more than 6 months, and I'm 21. I was very depressed alot of the time and that had an adverse effect on my ability to work, and most of my employers weren't very understanding at all. Perhaps you're scared because previous jobs have caused you to harm yourself, and you're worried you'll go back down that road again? I know I'm scared of getting a job and just messing everything up again.
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I am the same - but am about a month into a voluntary job.
I don't feel the same sort of responsibility as I would in a paid job and I'm really enjoying it. Its amazing the sort of jobs that are on voluntary websites.
I'm training to operate a hyperbaric oxygen chamber for people with MS. Its really interesting but on the site I went to there were animal shelters, wildlife rescues, school assistants, charity shops, hospices, hospitals, all sorts.
Have a quick look on do-it.org and see whats in your area.
Meanwhile make sure your benefits are up to date so you have a little money coming in
